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Article: Guilt Part of Good Parenting

Sarah101's picture

Submitted by Sarah101 on Wed, 01/21/2009 - 10:22am

Hi everyone--Here's an article that a few of us can really relate to. Stay strong!

http://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2009/jan/14/guilt-part-of-good-paren...

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sarahbernheart's picture

Submitted by sarahbernheart on Wed, 01/21/2009 - 10:26am

that article could have been 10 pages and I still would have read it.
I wish FH would get a clue..

"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."

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Submitted by BMJen on Wed, 01/21/2009 - 10:33am

I'm writing a book sarah......it'll be much much much longer! Hope all my friends on here will read it when it's done!

secondwife20's picture

Submitted by secondwife20 on Wed, 01/21/2009 - 10:39am

until you write it because I will most definitely read it!

Sarah101's picture

Submitted by Sarah101 on Wed, 01/21/2009 - 10:38am

The author neglected to mention that it takes more GUTS and ENERGY to be a good parent, rather than an indulgent parent.

I think most of us really try to be good parents to our kids and skids, and as a result are rather unpopular at times--or all the time. If our spouse is an indulgent guilt-driven parent, we end up banging our heads against a wall and the child ultimately suffers a lifetime of dysfunction.

If guilt-driven parents could see the future result of their parenting choices, do you think it would be enough to get them to clue in, get real, and change their approach? Or are they just too zoned out, lazy and selfish to sacrifice their short-term bennies ("Oh I love you Daddy!" "You're my favorite, Daddy!")for the long-term success of their children?

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Submitted by Endora on Wed, 01/21/2009 - 12:42pm

Here is what I get back

"So since I sometimes feel guilty I must be doing something right".

GIVE ME A BREAK "FEEL GUILTY SOMETIMES"-THE GUY IS THE LIVING DEFINITION OF GUILTY!

Also I wonder what he is doing right! ARGHHHH

Step Parenting – you might need to step back before you step in something!

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Submitted by bellacita on Wed, 01/21/2009 - 12:44pm

but we knew that already.

u poor thing Sad

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

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Submitted by secondwife20 on Wed, 01/21/2009 - 11:34am

that I'm too rough. He tells me that I expect SD8 to act like an adult all the time.

Uh. No I don't.

What I do expect from SD8 is to act her age... which is something she refuses to do.

What I do expect from her is to appreciate and respect me as well as everyone around her. Does she do that? No. Why? Because she doesn't care. As long as she gets what she wants, she doesn't care about anyone.

Problem is, DH thinks that my expectations are too difficult for SD8 to meet.

... Yeah, whatever. Excuses, excuses, excuses.

All I know is that DH and I are going to have a mucho problemo when we have kids because I have a feeling he will make himself to be the "good" parent who says yes all the time and gives them everything they want... and I will be the big bad mom. I will rip him to shreds if he tries to raise our kids to be spoiled brats like he did to his poo poo monster princess.

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Submitted by bellacita on Wed, 01/21/2009 - 11:39am

"I have a feeling he will make himself to be the "good" parent who says yes all the time and gives them everything they want... and I will be the big bad mom."

i feel that way too...DH has such trouble disciplining his kids, even though he always seems to agree w me that they need it and what he shud do, but cant follow thru. i always tell him is this how hes gonna be w our kids, or is it just HIS kids who are too good and too perfect to be disciplined???

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin