especially if they are giving you crap now. Dh's ex has been remarried and divorced twice and has only recently stopped most of her BS with us. BUT, that is only b/c SD is 17 now and deals directly with her BM. Usually it tends to get worse around the time you married your man and if you have children together, it will escalate when they are born. I'm not trying to be negative, just a realist like Serendipity.

It was my DHs ex's decision to move away from their marriage. She had the affair behind DHs back and moved on with her new "Mr. Wonderful". She married him. She had a new baby with him. (I didn't show up into the picture until their divorce was almost finalized).

Through it all, we always thought, "Ok maybe NOW she'll get bored with making OUR lives a living nightmare."

Nope. Never happened. It's now six years later. And it's NEVER going to change. Because the reality is...she's seriously unhappy with her life and is always looking for someone else to blame (which is usually US). Plus, we believe she's truly mentally unstable.

And, unfortunately, that is something we have to deal with forever!

"Of course things worked out nicely for Carol Brady...she had a live-in maid and Mike's first wife was DEAD!"

til DH and i have a baby...im sure we will bein for some good BM fun then

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

My DH's CBM could keep a man, then maybe she wouldn't be so hateful and grimey towards us all the time.. I would love for her to find her knight and shining armor and have him marry her and take her out of state!

and I don't know which is worse.

When BM is single....ugh. DH becomes the penis in her life. Calls him incessantly and is always asking him to help her do SOMETHING. Then asking for advice and sucking up to DH telling him how great he is and how he's the best dad and blah blah blah. She also mutates into SuperMom doing all the things GREAT moms do. DH and the girls eat it up with a spoon. I get to watch from the sidelines and silently wonder why nobody remembers all the shit shes put us thru.

But when my skids BM is in a relationship she treats DH like a second rate servant who's job in life is to give her money. She also takes her girls off the pedastal that she's placed them upon while in SuperMom mode. And everyone is miserable because they liked the OTHER extreme so much better. I hate seeing the girls suffer but man I LOVE the silence.

So I guess my answer is no, it doesn't get better all the way around. I can't wait for the day where I will never have to listen to the shrill of her voice again.

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley

that when Xwife married, she left us alone. It is when the husband's mother becomes a widow!!!! That is another story!

Too bad BM is way too 'cool' and 'badass' to be 'tied down' to marriage - or any steady relationship apparently! From what I understand she is in the triple digits now and every single one is 'not good enough for her - she needs a Real Man'!!!! So far they are all perfectly happy to run away LOL

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin

Doesn't change. BM's want it both ways. To have their cake and eat it too. Plain and simple. That's just an observation of mine and it seems to ring very true most of the time.

Don't get me wrong, there are some good BM's out there but they're not easy to find. It's all about whether or not they have a positive self-image as well as high self-esteem and self-respect. Without these items, they're monsters.

Honestly, I'm a minority. I'm a BM. I divorced my ex for nothing other than he was emotionally and verbally abusive and he's an alcoholic; a VERY MEAN one. He's had the same gf for almost three years. The way I see it, if he's happy then why fix it if it ain't broke? She's very nice to our kids and they like her. She even gives me hand-me-downs for my youngest! We aren't friends but every time I've seen her, she's always been nice to me and I don't see any reason to be impolite to her. I've never had a reason to be. If he's happy with her then I don't have to worry. And if they broke up for some reason, I would never in a million years go back to him. Yuck. I know this might make me sound like an anomoly. I'm sincerely not trying to toot my own horn either. But it's about maturity too. I wanted out of the marriage. I got out. I haven't had a boyfriend in years and that doesn't make me a cling on to my ex. Why would I have divorced him then? I can hold my own. I don't want him to feel obligated. I don't want him doing things I can do myself. If I were to do that, can you imagine how confusing that would be for the kids?

Just my two,
MJ24

So... she's got another guy "gain", haven't seen this one before, Why did the tramp come outside this time and walk up to the car? I looked over and saw this guy in his shorts and t-shirt and she was in pajama pants so, I'm quite sure they were layin' up all day or somethin' she tried to ask DH if he had a carseat in the car, he said "yes" so then she said.. "let me see it" then proceeds to walk over to the car and look in.. I think sometimes she tells the idiot of the week to come outside with her because DH is some supposed horrible person, I wanted to yell to the guy "Make sure you wear a condom, she's carrying diseases!"