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sageleaf's picture

I have been a member here for what...two hours? for the past few days i have felt SO lost...like-can I really do this? FH and 3 FSkids-ages 17 and up, psycho BM who doesnt buy her kids christmas/bday presents, cries poverty when she makes $30K+ a year at a state job...robbed my FHs business out of tons of money when she left...never got any repercussions and my FH is paying her what, 50K credit card debt as divorce settlement? Then she texts him comstantly saying "Ill always love you, youre my soulmate, ill always be settling..." he shows me ALL the texts and never responds PERIOD. He does not speak with her. Its like HELLO lady you ruined his life. Does she really want him back? I dont think so. Im pretty sure shes just insane. I feel like its this sort of black cloud over our lives though...its tough to deal with sometimes...Its good to know there are so many women out there dealing with the same problems and emotions-some problems which are even worse then mine...and I never thought that possible. Good to be here!

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Thetis's picture

Welcome! This site has probably saved my sanity, but the insane never know they're insane right? lol Its tough to deal with the stuff that comes from ex relationships. I hope you take advantage of this site as a place to vent!

sageleaf's picture

absolutely! This is definately going to be my saving grace. I'm sure I will have PLENTY of psycho BM stories in the future too (unfortunately). I usualy vent to my future MIL and she is great at giving me good advice because she is also a SM--luckily I love her and my FHs whole family. Its good to have somewhere else to vent though! I don't want her to think ill of me, and i need to be able to vent with no boundaries! Thank you steptalk Smile

Purpleflower09's picture

Welcome to the club of step parents. I love this site and the people are awesome. So much great advice is given on here and I WAS having a shitty day, but talking to others on here ( when i should be working ) I just feel better and more in control of my life. None of us will ever see eachother face to face, but I can guess a lot of good online friendships occur on here because of all the honest support you get.

Purpleflower

jmiller's picture

I am new here...hi everyone,hope this helps with my situation a bit

lstewart's picture

You are so right. I have only been a member for 4 days and have benefitted enormously. The biggest problem with being a stepmother in a toxic environment is that you question yourself. It is wonderful to talk to those in the same boat.

sageleaf's picture

what is wrong with these women? its like- im no saint but...where do they come from? i WISH i could have a good relationship with the mother of his children but holy hell... why is it always finances etc. ? i think they feel they are "owed" something. psycho, psycho women. they give all of us a bad name. did she also all out slander your DHs name? I bet she did. thats what BM here did. spread vicious lies about him. oh and her new boyfriend? has NO IDEA about the texts she sends my FH. Its like...i could easily just tell him. I feel sorry for the poor bastard. at least the Skids like him...

thanks for the welcome. i should try burning some sage. i burn tons of "theraputic" incense. and we live in "Their" old house. half of its covered in awful wallpaper. im redoing it room by room. its torture to look at.

love this place Smile thank u