Advice please. Biomom has hit a new low.
The biomom told us to not celebrate Christmas because she is now a Jehovah's Witness and she has the major decision making ability which includes religious upbringing as stated in the parenting plan. We asked and found out that she can't prevent us from celebrating it with the kids and told her. So we find out today, when it's our day to get them back, that she is not giving them to us because she has filed a police report. Contacted the police and all they could tell us is that there was a child abuse report filed. This woman has filed false allegations to prevent them from being with us for Christmas, knowing it won't be resolved until after Christmas. We have no idea what the accusations are yet because we couldn't get the papers until tomorrow. We are at our wits end. She files so much crap against us just to get her way for a while and it always resorts back to the original parenting plan once she loses but this time she has gone too far. What can he do to stop her harassment through the courts? I don't see why the chancellor won't see through her paper trail of harassment. I guess he thinks she is just acting like a "concerned mother" instead of a control freak. Anyone had this happen and what came of it?
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I don't know what state you
I don't know what state you are in, but my x-husband's x-wife pulled a stunt like this too. She didn't want him to see the kids so she had the 8 year old claim she was being abused. My x hired an attorney and had an emergency hearing on the evidence and won the right to see his kids even while the investigations with CPS was on-going. Ultimately we wound up getting custody of her.
Some people are just evil.
I would contact her church
I would contact her church and let them know what bullshit she is pulling because I am sure that they would not like that she is using her religion to get back at the father and that is what she is doing!!!! What a bitch - not christian at all is she?!?!??!
They still believe in Christ
They still believe in Christ and try to be christ like and to keep your child from his father is not Christ like!! Anyone can twist their religion to hurt people and that is what she is doing - I would get a lawyer in the morning and go after her with a vengeance. And a true christ believer may not agree with Christmas but also would not want a mother disrespecting the father of her children. They would not be able to condone her lying no matter how hard they tried to. I am saying a prayer that it goes good for you and that your BM gets in trouble for lying about the abuse it is totally disgusting that she is doing this!!
In our state filing a report
In our state filing a report does not give her the right to withhold the children, he has to be served before it is legal. Get a lawyer ASAP and have an emergency hearing. BM pulled the same crap on DH and he had the kids back the next day.
I'd just be spiteful and if
I'd just be spiteful and if he misses actual Christmas day with his kids then oh well. But the next time he does have them then do a BIG Christmas celebration with the kids! Keep the tree up, presents under the tree, keep stockings hung, make a Christmas meal, invite friends/family over...everything waiting til he sees them. Bm will think she got away with her crap and dh still has Christmas with his kids. Plus she'll be SO mad when she finds out after the fact! But, that is just me.
Filing doesn't mean she can
Filing doesn't mean she can interfere with court ordered visitation. Go pick them up anyway for your court ordered visit. If she refuses, hold her in contempt and file against her immedietely for withholding visitation.
Say "okay. We won't celebrate
Say "okay. We won't celebrate christmas"
And then on Christmas day, tell the kids you would like to show how much you love and care about them through various gifts. Hee hee
Our BM filed an emergency
Our BM filed an emergency "order to show cause" and had DH visitation suspended so that DH would miss SS birthday. It took six weeks to get visitation back, but we ended up with more of what we wanted in the custody order (including more visitation time).
We had his birthday party the first weekend we had him home and all was good!
Thank you all for responding.
Thank you all for responding. She put an order of protection on him and I guess this is what sparked child services to get involved. This is the 5th time in 13 months she has attacked us in court for various reasons but this time she has gone too far. Allegations of child abuse are very serious, as they should be. She is wearing us down and depleting our money. We can't just go and get an attorney anymore. It's gone. I am probably going to sell my car this time to get good representation because the last attorney through the other 4 attacks sucked really bad, even to the point where he was silent and the judge had to ask if there was anything else he wanted to say!!!! I was about to jump out of my seat!! He didn't mention a single thing we told him about what she and her Manson-like husband are doing to them. I feel so awful that they will not wake up to a single present tomorrow...no tree...no Merry Christmas....just the same old ordinary, boring day. Everyone needs a special day to brighten their sprits, both children and adults alike. My stepbabies won't have this and I am so sad for them. More so than I even think their dad is. I love them like my own babies and I know they are going to be so heart broken tomorrow. I cherish my Christmas morning memories, with their excitement and wonder. I thought about standing outside on the sidewalk with my kids and at least singing some carols for them and showing them their presents they get to open when they get hope so that they have something to happily dream about until then. That selfish woman would probably call the cops. For Christmas carols and happiness. It's sad that all it takes is a crazy mom to file a cheap if not free order of protection and a dad thousands of dollars to fight it. The system is screwed but only because of the selfish women who abuse it. Sadly, if it changed to stop these women, women who really needed it would be screwed. There is no easy way. And the orders of protection have changed for our state where now the judge checks the boxes next to what he wants the orders to be and he didn't check the box next to the kids not being able to be around him or speak to him (judge probably saw where she is full of crap) but she is still refusing to give them to him or even let him speak to them for Christmas. She is in huge contempt and I hope this judge puts her under the jail and puts them on week on/off custody seeing how she could care less about the kids or us more time while she attends parenting classes. As much as I would like to say she is crazy, I still believe a child needs both parents and hopefully with counseling she can start to see the children's wants and needs before her own anger and need for control. They are being hurt so bad and without money it's hard to stop it with the way the system is set up.