Hello all, I am in desperate need of some advice. I have been with my fiance for almost 3 years and he has 2 children from a previous marriage, daughter 10 almost 11 and son 12. I have a 6 year old daughter from my previous marriage. Ok so his kids pick on my daughter and I dont know how to handle it. He tells his kids to knock it off but that is where it ends. Never any punishment only "dont do that" and "dont talk to her she cant handle anything". She is always blamed for his kids misbehaviors. Then his kids disrespect me also. We have been wanting to raise our children together as a 'real' family. So when I try to set rules and guidlines and they disobey it is the same as above, "dont do that" "listen to her" and all that jaz. And yet again no punishment. He gets defensive and always says "they are just kids" They also dont do jack around the house. Not even bring their dirty laundry downstairs. Whenever you try to tell them to do something they get mad. Throw fits until they get their way. I am getting so stressed from working full time, taking care of housework, all of our pets as well as the childrens pets. I come home from work and there is crap EVERYWHERE, dirty dishes, dirt on the floor from not taking shoes off, piles of laundry and dishes, animals with no food, etc. Gooness I realize now that I am unable to raise them as my own. How am I supposed to deal with them and this situation when they are here everyother week. Oh plus whenever I have a day off I am unable to sleep in because I am expected to get the kids up and ready for school even though their dad is sleeping in the next room. I love my fiance very much and we have been through a lot together and am not going to leave him but I am beginning to feel resentments towards his children...HELP!