So, I disengaged about 5 months ago now and they are trying to turn the wheels on me again with "You didn't tell us" bs.  Not to us, but to "BM friends daughter whose daughter is friends with DH friends wife."  I do not consider those people as friends and have no room for busy bodies who have no role in my every day life.  Is this senerio not so High School.  And these people are Grandparents now.  Great Role models for kids right.  Teach them young to be entitled and Bigots.

SO, no I didn't do a thing to remind them of a family function that is a routine on the calendar.  I don't want to hear the excuses any more that they will be there, then at the last minute change their minds because extended family there is mean about their beliefs, hurts their feelings and they don't want their kids around that kind of person.  Like the world is suppose to change every where they go to appease their whinny fake lives.  At least that person they fear pays their way thru life and doesn't belly ache about bills they themselves signed on the dotted line for.

The only time DH and I have disagreements is about that kid, just the one SS.  DH just clams up about them and refuses to say a word.  The other SS is so sweet.  Nothing much phases him and he just goes with the flow or he disappears without a word.  But he makes a presentation at least.  He at least makes an effort to text or call his father on his birthday or Fathers Day.  I think the entitled SS has sent one Fathers Days greeting in all the years I've been around and never a Happy Birthday greeting or present.  But he gets his fake ass life in a wade if we forget any of them.  I have never received any acknowledgement for my Birthday or mothers day from his family, nor do I expect anything from them.  But I do expect his family to show my husband that kind of consideration.  We don't expect anything other than a text, card or phone call.  We don't pick up the tabs for others when we get together at restaurants.  And we don't expect others to pick up ours either like the bigot SS hem haws around when the bill comes.  Whines I have two kids and my education loan pmts will start again soon.  Another whinny entitled story.  I'm still working full time, but DH is retired now, on disability and a limited income which entitled SS doesn't want to understand.  He has this you owe me attitude.

I have a feeling the rest of this years family gatherings are going to be this finger pointing at me that I didn't tell them something.  I'm done.  I'm going to be like the sweet SS and disengage, go with the flow and disappear without a word if certain people aren't happy AKA Entitled bigoted SS.  I'm staying disengaged.  They best just get over it.