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She May be the Mother but I will always be MOM

Rational1's picture

She May be the Mother but I will always be MOM

Im I in a unique situation? Im not sure. BioMother has gone long periods of times with no contact and when she does, police, cps somehow always get involved. I do know my sds bio mother is exactly that her mother. However Iam in her mom.

I found this online and thought some of you might relate:

Mother or MOM

There was a time when Mother & Mom
meant the same person. In our ‘modern’ society,
this is not always true.

Today, Mom is not always the same person as Mother. What distinguishes the difference between these two titles?

Mother is the person who gives life to a child.
Mom is the person who gives her life to the raising of a child. A person who willingly accepts the burdens, responsibilities, heart breaks, and joys of raising a child.

In comparison to being a Mom, it takes very little to be a Mother. It takes only nine months to become a mother. On the other hand, to be a Mom takes a life commitment to hard work, worry, and the giving of one’s self for the good of a child. Mom shares a child’s joys, worries, fears, successes, and disappointments. Mom often has to give up parts of her own dreams, needs, and wants, for the welfare of the child she is raising. She does this out of love for the child.

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Rational1's picture

Thank you very much Smile Today was one of those days much better now after a little steptalk Blum 3

Rags's picture

Totaly get where you are coming from.

I became "Dad" to my SS-19 when he was 15mos old. I am the only "Dad" he has known though he has had regular visitaiton (7wks/yr) with his Father/SpermIdiot and SpermClan the whole time.

A dad/mom is the one who teaches a kid to use the bathroom, tie their shoes, read, write, coaches their sports teams, helps with homework, goes to PTA meetings and parent teacher conferences, attends all of their school related family funtions, goes to work every day to provide a sound and safe home, safe transportation, nutritious food, a good education and loves the Skid and the parent that the mom/dad is married to.

When I gave this talk to my son (SS) when he was about 8-10 in response to toxic crap from SpermGrandMa my son replied. "You sound like a real dad to me.".

Kids are smart and know who their "real" mom/dad are. So do those in the blended family oppostion. That is why the toxic dipshits in the opposition hate us Sparents so much.