Below is the body of an E-mail I recently received regarding success strategy in high conflict X situations.

I believe that the concept is equally applicable in th extended blended family environment in dealing with Xs, ill behaved kids of any age but even more so with (S)kidults, XILs, current ILs, our own partner, and our own family members who are incapable or unwilling to be reasonable.  The best tool to deal with them is factual evidence.

In short; document, document, document, format it, turn it into usable evidence, and do not accept or tolerate unreasonable behavior from the opposition.

There are two communities sponsored by this lady and her team.

Modern Law Practice

The Modern Divorce Support Group

The attorney is Billie Tarascio.  She is licensed in AZ and formerly licensed in SpermLand  (OR) where she attended Law School.  I would not classify her as a pit bull or a shark. In fact, she has addressed how to shut down a pit bull or shark "loud attorney" representing the opposition while in court  or in non court discourse. It is about facts and presenting them as evidence. Pure and simple.  She is no bullshit, very clear and well spoken, and her passion is helping those navigating contentious divorces or blended family situations.

She is a divorced mom and a StepMom.  Even if I had all of the money in the world and a team of pit bull attorneys, I would not want to go up against her, her team, or her client if she was representing an  X of mine.  I would pay to have her on my team even if I was not in a state she is licensed in.

The guide referenced below is available to followers at no cost.  As I understand it anyway.  I follow the groups. I do not subscribe.  The non-bold elements are my adds.  

Billie Tarascio

Hi (Rags),

Have you ever stared at your phone (email, text, listened to a V-mail, or listened to your X rant…) unsure how (or if) to respond to your co-parent?  You’re not the only one.  Many parents in high conflict situations feel stuck.

• If  you respond it turns into an argument.
• If you don’t respond it looks like you are not cooperating.
• You stop communicating. And in the moment, that feels safer.

Here’s the truth.  In court, silence helps them – not you.

Judges to not see the stress of your inbox, or the arguments you are avoiding. They see evidence and if there is no record of your efforts, it looks like you were not trying.

That’s why we put together our latest guide:

High Conflict Co-Parenting:  Turning violations into Evidence.

Inside, you’ll find the exact wording to use in situations like:

Chronic Absenteeism or failing grades

When they ignore your requests

Missed calls or blocked communication

Constant lateness or cancellations

Its not about arguing. It’s about calmly, consistently creating a record that shows you are child focused and reasonable --- while they are not.

Don’t let feeling stuck hold you back. Start documenting today, and give yourself the evidence you need tomorrow.

Every short factual message you send and document protects you and your child, in court.

The Modern Law Team.