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What is up with bm calling and not leaving a mess.

purpledaisies's picture

Well bm has been calling lately but not leaving a mess nor texting. I am just wondering what the heck she wants. :? However she knows that is she wants dh to call her back or what ever she has to leave a mess and it has to be about the kids. So this tells me that she is just calling to be calling. I am getting really sick of these calls. And I am wondering what she wants i hate that about me. Although I do think why I want to know is b/c 9 times out of 10 she wants more money.

I want to let this go but when I get to the point of doing that she calls again! GGRR

However I do know that she calls only when dh is at work. dh will text me and tell me she called but he didn't answer nor leaved a mess. then yesterday she called again but he wasn't at work as he hurt his back and was on some meds and he can't drive while on them. I think it was intensified with me b/c he was home and I saw it.

So ladies what can I do to keep med from thinking about her calls. My dh does and will tell me when she calls I like it that way so that I can stay in the loop. I feel as though once you marry there are NO secrets and nothing should be kept from each other NOTHING! We do read each other texts and such but not like you think more like when we aren't able to get to lour phones the other will pick up and answer or text back. neither of us go snooping but we have no problem with the other going on our fb or phones or what ever.

anyway kinda went off topic but i really can't stand all the freaking calls and the no mess or what she wants. Just calls b/c dh doesn't answer her the first time as she has to leave a mess and it has to be about the kids.

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Lauren1438's picture

If there is any form of email communication I would have DH send her an email asking her to stop calling unless she leave a message about the skids.

As for how to not let it bug you I dont know. Everything our BM gets under my skin and drives me up the wall....however I have found that having her arrested gives me a warm fuzzy feeling.

purpledaisies's picture

She doesn't have email that she will let dh have. But dh could text her to stop calling unless she leaves a mess. thanks good idea.

answering the phone myself is a good idea. Thanks Smile

I just really don't want to say a thing to that woman b/c I am afraid i'll go off on her. lol

ThatGirl's picture

Maybe have him send her a text saying, "You've called several times without leaving a message. What do you need?"

Willow2010's picture

It could be worse. LOL. BM would leave these loooong drawn out messages about the smallest things. It could take 5-7 minutes for her to ask about lost back pack or some other stupid crap. DH used to say...if you asked BM what time it was...she would tell you how the clock was made. LOL

Actually, it is more annoying for someone to not leave a message. I NEVER call anyone back if they don't leave a message. If it was important, they should have left a VM.

purpledaisies's picture

Yep I was thinking of that too. I will have him do it when he gets home. He hates to do stuff like that at work anyway. Thanks for all the suggestions ladies. I just know it is something stupid like last time it was "did you ins go up when you added purples kids?" That was all!

She didn't ask for dh to help pay ss16 ins or anything just wanted to know how much we pay. I told dh that she is working her way up to asking for us to pay half. I just know she is. Dh said he will not pay for any of it b/c yuckopotmus already said that he will not get a job as school is his job and he will only be driving to school. My kids have jobs and need their car for that so I pay their ins. My kids are more self responsible anyway and like to have their own money and pay for their own wants.

Yuckopotmus seems to think that the skids need to have everything handed to them and they shouldn't have to pay for a thing. Just like her as she refuses to get a job and expects us to support her lazy ass!

Newstep's picture

BM does that too she keeps calling untill he gets fed up and answers. Or he will text her and ask what she wants. He always gets the text back I need to talk to you. So dumb!! Then it's about some inane thing that doesnt even matter. He has stopped talking to her on the phone and now only does text. But for some reason she has been strangely quiet the past few weeks.

purpledaisies's picture

I already told him he did good as it suits her to a T. She is 6 foot and weighs like 300lbs not kidding. She has this HUGE bubble butt like a hippopotamus. :sick:

stepfamilyfriend's picture

I think I understand your frustration and it sounds very legitimate. Good for your DH for keeping you in the loop, as you put it. Ever since we found out that SD 18 is pregnant, bm calls my DH at work A LOT, at least compared to how it was. Like twice a week and she'll talk for an hour. DH tells me every time and I am not worried about anything weird, yet it still bothers me. I know they are both worried about her and trying to do the right thing. DH and I talk about the situation as well, but I know that there is something about the two of them beeing the people that care about her the most, that has brought them a little closer. It is how it should really be , both if them concerned about her and putting their resentments aside for her sake. Even though I know this it makes me feel a little left out and weird. Sorry for hijacking your blog with my own issues.