dh called bm out!
He texted bm and asked why the change that ss15 is going? Couldn't have been b/c I said I wanted to pick him up from school?
She texted back that it was a family trip and not everything is about u.
What really? No you are the one that thinks it is all about you!
Dh called her at that point and he laid into her about the whole mess and told her that it wasn't about him or her but about the kids and her games she plays with them.
He told her that from now on when they have anything going on during his time he WILL take them period! Plus she will call him on her way back to meet so he can get his kids even if that is 10 or so at night he doesn't care!
She said, get this, that she would be taking them home so they can rest and he can pick them up sat when they wake up!!!
He told her no I don't think so b/c from where you are coming the meeting place is on the way which is half way to either of our homes and they will get in bed at the same time. So you will have them at the meeting place tonight. End of story.
Why is this woman trying to make this so much more difficult than it has to be? I mean why do this crap? But all the while she is screaming about how she is putting the boys first. But then she says she has to do everything herself when dh is always telling her he can pick the boys up from school or something to help her. then she goes out of her way to make sure dh is out of the picture.
I think she wants people to think dh is a dead beat and never does anything for his kids or help her out. :sick:
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I will, dh has really had it
I will, dh has really had it with her and I hope if she doesn't show that he will do something. I will be at work at that time so i won't know til sat morn.
AT least your man has the
AT least your man has the Balls to stand up to her and talk to her like that! Be happy my hubby treats his ex wfe like her feelings still matter
Yea I do believe me he got
Yea I do believe me he got some extra lovin last night
Good for your DH. My wife
Good for your DH. My wife and I tried to play nice with the SpermClan. However, over and over again they would mistake our being "nice" as weakness and push, and push and push until we finally quit working with them, beat the snot out of them with the CO every time they even thought about violating it, and learned the most powerful word in any language "NO!".
Taking control and using a ZERO tolerance position with the blended family opposition removes a ton of stress from the situation. If the opposition is reasonable it is not always necessary but if they are not ..... HAVE FUN! }:)
Let the opposition deal with the stress while you and DH stay calm and keep the CO rolled up for easy access for beating the snot out of them.
Most COs and state rules and regulations are crystal clear that visitation will not be F-ed with by the CP and that NCP visitation as outlined in the CO is inviolable for any reason. Not for extracurriculars, not for CP family trips, not for anything. Only the NCP can choose to not follow the visitation CO. The NCP can choose to not take the kid per the CO. The CP does not have the option of not delivering the kid per the CO.
In the supplemental rules for the jurisdiction where my SS's CO was generated the Skid must be delivered for visitation and returned from visitation within 15mins prior to 15mins after the transfer date. If the CP or NCP does not deliver the kid within that half an hour they are in violation. Of course most CPs and NCPs are reasonable and work together on these types of things but those who don't can suffer a major shit storm if the opposition chooses to nail their asses to the wall over it.
It seems that BM has been a PITA for long enough for you and DH to put her on eternal ZERO tolerance double secret probation.
Good for your DH.
Hang in there.
We had a similar issue, if it
We had a similar issue, if it makes you feel better. BM would find ALL sorts of things for the skids to do on visitation weekends. From birthday parties, to extracurriculars to people having babies, to getting new pets - anything she could to make NOT coming to Dad's a better deal for the skids.
She also would not even think of allowing NN (BF) to take them since it is HIS time. She would just cancel the visitation.
We finally took her to court for Contempt. She got a $500 fine. The judge also gave her a strict talking to regarding the activities. The judge said that BM can sign skids up for anything she wants BUT it is not up to her to make sure they get there if it is not her parenting time. If it is the NCP parenting time, it is up to them whether they want to take them or if they just miss that weekend.
Not to be a downer but that fine only seemed to help things for a couple of months. Now the visitation interference is worse than ever with one of the two skids.
See...what is the deal with
See...what is the deal with this?? It's like they want to be the eternal victime, badmouth the "deadbeat" parent but do everything in their power to screw with them.
I do NOT for the life of me understand our BM-she will throw the kid to bf or his parents ANY chance she gets with NO prior warning-schedule is ALWAYS up in the air and up until recently bf lived force to drop whatever he was doing because the girl was coming over...the sd is taken by bm to friends, grandparents, you name it just to get rid of her. YET YET-when it comes to his ACTUAL SCHEDULED by CO visitation EOW...she has always tried to interfere with THAT to make it to where she has bday parties, sporting stuff, sleepovers somewhere, she also has done the "we have a new pet" (which she gets rid of a week later)...and all kind of lures to have her come home early on Sunday to spend quality time....or get her to think about really wanting to go home by promising to give her a big surprise when she gets back.
OMG...what the hell-it's so confusing doesn't make sense does it??? I don't get it!
The funny thing is every time she's tried to lure her back early on his SCHEDULED time-she never wins-we never give in-and the SD will normally call her mom to tell her she's not ready to leave early-in fact we have to push her to go home at the regular scheduled time-she's learned to not even care about mom's lures to interfere w/dads time.
YET she tries all the time to pawn her off when it's NOT his scheduled time-lol-only in crazyland I guess.
Good for him for not playing
Good for him for not playing into her games. I wish my DH would call BM out on some of this stuff. He doesn't want to rock the boat....
I am so happy that dh is
I am so happy that dh is finally standing up to her when it comes to his time with the boys. I mean he does stand up here and there but mainly he will scream about and then she knows he will get over it and she can still do what she wants.
I hope this time dh will actually stand his ground the next time she says one or all of them can't come for their visit b/c of this or that.
I also think that when ss15 had his foot ball thing the last visit that she kept him from dh b/c she wouldn't let dh take him but then said he could pick him up on sat afterwords. Then she wanted dh to pick him up at her house b/c she was sick (she was on the rag but was going to the hospital to see a friend). But since dh refused and said she can meet half way she refused to let him have ss115. Which dh made clear he would not be picking the kids up at her house any more and they will meet half way like it states in the CO!
He has really been stepping up lately.
And here's the thing, as a
And here's the thing, as a BM-darn I love my kids but I guess I dont' care to be a victim lol-I WANT my kids to have a good relationship w/their dad-I've always pushed and encouraged it...even if HE choses to not be as involved (he's doing better now).
I'd JUMP at the chance of having a Friday night to chill-I look fwd to my kids free EOW lol-wish it would start Fri not Sat afternoon as it's been doing. THEY need time w/him-more then they get-and I need my sanity time because darn it IS tough doing it all and primary parent all the time, your head, body and sould need to recharge.
over you are right I have
over you are right I have always been the type to not be the victim and enjoy my time by myself. When I was single I would have GLADLY have the help from my kids dad that dh is trying to give bm. I don't understand at all. I do think she lives off the poor you from everyone at the kids school and people from the apts she lives to everyone else she can convince that dh is dead beat.
I wish to be a fly somewhere when all these people realize that bm is not the MOY she is claiming to be and that dh really is a good dad that she has tried to stomp on and just take his money. I would bet money that she tells them all that dh doesn;t pay CS or anything else for that matter. She did try that with the boys and after dh finally showed them the proof they don't believe her anymore about that.
It is just sad that bm has to do that to the kids and they are older now and see through her so much but what can they do?