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paradoxsmom's picture

This happened a few days ago but it seems to be festering. Maybe if i can write it down then I can let it go.

Saturday night me, my husband and his son were sitting in the living room watching movies. We were watching tower heist (which was alright) and there was a spot on there where they went on about lesbians. It was a bit excessive however I have never kept things from the children in my home. I don't agree with the life style, which is why I don't live like that. I have friends that are gay and are the coolest, nicest people I have ever met. My SS12 went on a rant about how much he hates gay people. I wont say the words he used but they were super offensive. His dad didn't seem bothered by his out burst but I sure was so I said something to him. I talked to him about how when he is being so judgmental that it looked poorly on him, and how he doesn't need to agree with the life style but he needs to be respectful. He got mad, threw a fit and went into his room. My DH said "Kids will be kids".

Will kids really be kids? My boys don't act or talk like that, and maybe because they are younger and haven't been exposed to it but I would like to think I have educated them enough to not be so judgmental. I know there are many people who don't agree with teaching our children about such a lifestyle. However, I truly believe the only way to fight judgmental and prejudice behavior it needs to start with education. I am not inappropriate with them about it. But they know there are people who choose different life styles and thats ok.

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paradoxsmom's picture

I thought so too... When SS went home me and DH had a long talk about it and I found out that DH felt very much the same way as SS. However, he did say that he needed to talk to him about keeping his thoughts to himself because he can get in trouble. Maybe I am defending DH but I think he feels like his son is so far gone there is nothing we can do about it. Maybe he is right.

paradoxsmom's picture

I have always looked at it like this... I don't agree with how many people live, which is why I don't live like that. Much like you, if i don't like it then I just don't participate.

paradoxsmom's picture

It is, and I can honestly say he did not learn it from me or my home. I have never heard his dad talk like that, but he doesn't like to watch anything with homosexuals in it, which is fine.

Madam Hedgehog's picture

you were dead on with this issue. disliking something and being hateful are extremely different issues. many of my friends are gay, and their children go through hell at school listening to kids like your SS rant about how horrible "the gays" are. he needs to realize that expressing his hatred like that hurts alot more people than he may think.

and your DH seems like he is being kind of lazy about this. he *probably* wouldn't tolerate any other kid spouting off like that in your home, especially if it upset his wife. he shouldn't be making excuses for his son, no matter how far gone he is.