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Feeling like a crappy mom today

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Fri, 01/03/2014 - 11:23am

BS7's birthday is fast approaching. At first he said that he wanted this stupid expensive toy and the deal was that since the thing was $350 he wasn't getting that and a big bday party. Well, now, a week out he has changed his mind. He wants a party... Well, thanks to the Christmas break and the fact that we have one of those lovely "broken homes and alternating weekends" I can't pull it off for the weekend before his bday. The next weekend that we have all the kids we are taking them all skiing and have already booked the trip.

Blah... I know that it shouldn't be a big deal but I have always gone all out for my kids and SS for birthdays. SS's was just last month and he got the whole sha-bang and now I can't pull it off for my own kid. Sad I guess at this point he will have to settle for a sleep over that I can spring together for next weekend or something, either that or wait for almost a month to have the party.

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Submitted by Igiveupsotornup... on Fri, 01/03/2014 - 11:36am

I was going to suggest recognizing his birthday and giving him your gift and making a cake or something and let him know that you are planning a big party for him and do it on the weekend that works for you. Let him know that it has to be this way for this year.

I always felt guilty too on my girls birthdays because I would have one big one since their birthdays are separate from one another and it works out where I have it 2 weeks after one of theirs and 2 weeks before the other one has her birthday.

Also I let my daughter have her first friend party and it was a sleep over for her 7th and she had so much fun and loved it more then the big party with family and friends. I didn't even have to do games or anything, they ate pizza, had cake, ran around the house like crazy and watched movies all sleeping on the living room floor, made them popcorn and got snacks for the movies.

He may be happy with just the sleep over. Just a thought. Easy to put together too.

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Fri, 01/03/2014 - 11:42am

I know it's silly to feel like crap over a party when we just had Christmas and we are going on a trip. But he is such a good kid, I just want him to feel special.

I hope he likes the idea of a sleep over because between the couple of friends that I have numbers for and the neighborhood kids, I really could throw that one together on the fly!

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Submitted by Igiveupsotornup... on Fri, 01/03/2014 - 12:27pm

Don't worry, its natural to feel guilty, you love your child. I would too. I would do the sleep over and I can 99% guarantee he will love it and have a blast! You will feel happy through it watching him have so much fun. My daughter now looks more forward to the sleep overs she can get with her friends on her birthday. Smile Keep us informed on how it goes. I am sure you will be happy with the result.