So, I told him last night that SD is not welcome in my home anymore~
It went relatively well-after venting here, and writing 4 pages of vomit about his nasty kid..I was compelled to give that letter to him and decided against it ha!
I did say to him....look this past wknd was hell for me...and get this, serious as a heart attack...he says really? I thought it went pretty ok?
I looked at him with disgust and said...that's because you ignore the disrespect and dont' discipline at all, and are in denial! I said, of all wknds this was one of the WORST and you didn't even sense that?
I said look, bottom line is she disrespects me, my house, my sons, she is a VISITOR here, and she will not be coming over for a while, at least until I see some serious changes. And those start with you-I can only blame a kid so much, but you have to start disciplining and giving CONSEQUENCES and PUNISHMENT, BIG TIME! It's YOUR kid, not mine....I have even less place to say anything but I will from now on in my home. I said look-the consequences of me feeling disrespected by both of you is she doesn't come over, there, that's MY consequence. He says "so you're really mad at me also" (DUH!) I said YES I'm mad at you for not parenting.
He said he understood completely. I said look, you're honest w/me about my boys, i'll return the favor, I don't want to not open up because honestly lately and after this wknd it's getting so bad that I'm starting to ahve really bad feelings towards you AND her, who is a kid in reality....so you HAVE to step up and demand my home is respected. I need a break to cool off from that mess, and I will decide when/if i'm ready to have her over again.
Surprisingly he didn't 'retaliate' the rest of the night w/attitude or anything-in fact he even washed dishes lol-BUT we'll see if he brings somethign up this wknd, which is supposed to be our skids free wknd-I have a feeling BM will try and fuck it up...and bet he will cave to the pressure...and if he does take SD this wknd? He will NOT be seeing me at all that wknd.
I also told him i was sick of having bm's presence in my home-because she calls sd's phone excesively, or calls to make arrangements about events for sd, or i see pics of bm, or she's mentioned. I said I don't want that moron in MY house, in MY time, in MY wknds with my kids. I said my kids dont' do it to you on and on about their dad, nor does he call....nor do I call when they are with their dad. It's called RESPECT.