We were watching a movie last night after the kids were asleep and in bed. It had a man who ended up spring his step kid's.

Dh tells me that he would apt my kids if it weren't for a few things.

It potentially could lower SD's cold support. Not sure if this is true, but I thought that was sweet that he still wants to fully support SD financially (yes he had her 50/50 and still pays 500 a month to help support her) I don't know a child that costs $1000 a month to raise. You know since it's supposed to cover his "half" of SD, even though half the time she's with us.

The fact that adopting them costs a lot of $$$. He also says all it is is a peice of paper, He is already their daddy.

PLEASE RAFF THIS PART IF THE REST WAS TOO MUCH THIS PART IS IMPORTANT.
I wouldn't allow dh to adopt my kids, if he really felt as though dds are "his already" then he wouldn't act the way he does. He wouldn't have us spending more money on SD, and make sure to get SD something on dds' birthdays. He wouldn't have higher expectations of dds' behavior and less expectations of SD's behavior. He wouldn't be so quick to through punishments around with dds and rarely punish SD when she does things that dds do and get punished for.

So the answer is no dh, I will not allow you to apt dds, even if you really did want to.