Ugh. I always feel like there is some manipulation going on. Not enough to flat out be in ur face obvious, but just little subtle moves, that are barely noticeable if you don't pay attn. If you have read my back blogs, you will know some history.

A few weeks ago, I overheard a phone call with SS and SO. It involved a monster truck show. And a rescheduling to a different date. A date that wasn't SS wknd. First I had heard of it, but apparently they already discussed it and made a plan. Then of course, I'm like what's that all about? And SO explains it to me, then invites my son and I. Fine, you are free to make plans with ur kid. But don't include me feeling obligated to because I overheard it. Just say, me and SS are going to Blagh Blagh Blagh. Cool. Have fun.

I proceeded to tell him I didn't have money to take bs, and a friend of mine was celebrating his bday that night anyway. End of conversation.

Until last night. The show is this weekend. Of course, in my head I'm thinking its vday wknd and maybe we could do something. And money is tight, so I prob won't be able to even go to my friends bday celebration.
SO walks in with candy and cards for both bs and I for vday (never happened before in 3 yrs) and I was a little surprised, esp since I haven't gotten him anything. Hmm. K.

Within 15 mins, the reason comes out. Exmil called and said she is coming to town and would drop SS off for the wknd. I'm sure she will. Considering BM wants SO to have SS every weekend., but anyway.

SO asks me what I think, and if u have plans and if bs will be here. I say I'm broke, bot sure if bs is going to dads, all in front of bs. Mind you, I have told him I don't have the money, and felt like we were invited because I overheard. He starts asking bs if he's interested. Etc, and I say, I don't have extra money this week, how much are tickets. He says he doesnt know, but he's not saying I need money. Ok Mr paycheck to paycheck. You have already made plans with SS, and talked this crap up, and now your are telling my son about it, and you don't even have any idea how much tickets will cost, when the show is and etc.

I was pissed. I feel like he totally did all this not even knowing the cost. And after ur made plans, decided to confer with me, before giving the ok for Exmil to drop SS off. Like I could say no. Luke putting the crap off on me. And what if I did say no, you shouldn't pick him up because I have plans? That would have been a fight, and I would have been the asshole and the scapegoat. Wtf? Really? And now you just took my possible kid free wknd away. He doesn't live with SS. Everyday is kid free. I get maybe one weekend a month if that to do adult things, and live responsibility free.

Now, do I go, and make him pay? Or stomp ky feet and sit this one out on principles?