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BM's Ex Came To Beg DH To Talk To Her

not2sureimsaneanymore's picture

I forgot to post this since it happened a couple months ago when I was on a STalk sabbatical but I found it hilarious.

So one day, out of the blue, BM's exSO shows up at our place of business, takes class (we're a martial art's school), and stays to talk to DH.

Okay, for those of you unfamiliar with our story, this is the SO that:

1. BM was with for 9 years and cheated on with DH (and got pregnant) by telling DH she and her SO were over even though they were living together (they both owned the house), much to the surprise of the SO because HE thought they were great and had the ring to pop the question. He expressed his surprise at her getting pregnant so fast (ONE CYCLE) despite being in her 40's and claiming she was infertile AND was on some sort of pill that he was told prevents pregnancy for a medical condition so for those nine years they never used protection and she never got pregnant (she claimed she had Crohn's when we found out she actually has very mild IBS--indeed she eats and drinks whatever she wants--so we don't know what medication she was actually on.)

2. Who, despite being cheated on, still remained friends with BM and helped her to try and rattle DH by a. showing up and taking class on their first court date, and their final court date, and b. showing up to a seminar one day, slipping into our apartment which is connected to the school, on the phone with BM telling her about our apartment until I walked in and found him in the corner, IN THE DARK, which scared the bejeezus out of me because no one was supposed to be IN OUR APARTMENT except me, as I was bringing food in and out for the event.

Anyway, this exSO had since remarried a very nice lady and is very happy.

Except for one thing.

BM refuses to allow him to sell the house that HE pays the mortgage on (even though her name is on it) and is throwing her crazy at him. I'm sure his new wife is not happy about that, since BM's lack of boundaries and possessiveness means she still thinks of her exSO as "her property" even though he's remarried--so she calls him to talk to him about her problems and then to berate him if he tries to bring up selling the house.

So he came by to ask DH if DH could talk her into it because he's at his wits end. He admits he never realized how crazy BM was until he's at the receiving end of this and that he "dodged a bullet" by not marrying her crazy ass.

Sorry dude, you're on your own. DH has no contact with BM at all, and even if he did, it's laughable to think he would be able to sway her even if he wanted to.

Poor guy and his poor wife, yet I can't help but feel it's a little bit of karma after all the stunts he pulled (which he did not bring up or apologize for.) Sooner or later, the truth comes out.

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Aeron's picture

I would without other information agree with poor wife. But any dude that is willing to sneak into someone else's home to be a spy and try to "rattle" someone over a court case - yea, he's an idiot but he did it to himself. When someone cheats on you, you cut bait and run. You don't stay friends and then help them harass the other guy. That's just asking for trouble on so so many levels.

not2sureimsaneanymore's picture

Welp, he can't be the brightest crayon in the box anyhow since he was gonna marry the psycho after 9 years and he simply described her as "a little difficult." I mean, you can be blind but not THAT blind.

Maxwell09's picture

I agree with Aeron, maybe poor wife. I think she got stuck with a crazy husband as it sounds like he was all for BM crazy when he was on the giving end with her instead of the receiving end from her. It has always amazed me at the links some of the new soul mates will go to sometimes to please the BMs. I don't know how he or she rationalized being in your apartment at all except to say they're both crazy and probably cut from the same clothe...probably why they didn't work out-too much of the same in one relationship.

not2sureimsaneanymore's picture

Good question, he is a bit of a pushover so it's likely that also pays a role in why BM is still walking all over him (like I'd be lawyering up and buying BM's equity out for what she can prove she paid for in the house or having her buy me out instead of going to her baby daddy.)

I agree, his poor, poor wife.