Escalation of red flags - Makes me sick
We checked SD's phone last night and there are more disgusting message's from Boy Toy.
"it's boring here without you" - SD is with SO this week
"I love you more. I'll show you"
I could go on, but I really don't feel like being sick. Per CPS's recommendations, the email to Crazy has been sent. Just for the record, I have absolutely NO CONTACT with Crazy. SO chose to marry her in his past, he can deal with her. Not to mention, I feel she would completely ignore anything I said, even at the risk of her daughter's safety.
Is anyone else frustrated with the slowness of CPS? I mean, the texts before were bad enough, they couldn't start investigating?
Anyone have experience in getting temporary custody?
Also, SD is loving the attention and responding to Boy Toy positively. To say the least, SO and I are freaking out and hoping it's not too late.
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This is awful. If I was your
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This is awful. If I was your DH, I'd be knocking some doors down, oh my, and I'd probably have an assault charge. He is grooming her. Someone needs to put their foot down immediately to Boy Toy, BM and SD that this is inappropriate and disgusting. Embarrass SD if she's responding positively! EMBARRASS BOY TOY! The whole thing makes my stomach turn as I'm sure it does you. I'm sorry you're going through this but I could not sleep at night if this was my child! What is BM saying about it all?
What the everloving F*CK?!
What the everloving F*CK?! This guy is a real creep and I hope CPS gets back to you SOON! Is this something you could call the police for? AND WHAT THE HELL DOES HE MEAN HE IS GOING TO "SHOW" HER??? That alone has alarm bells ringing all over it!!!!
I would have your SO take her to a Gyno asap.
On 2nd thought, I would bet
On 2nd thought, I would bet the police would take it seriously if you showed them a text from a non-related grown man to a 12 year old that said "I love you more, I'll show you". I think they would pay him an immediate visit.
^^^^^^THIS^^^^^^^ WTF is with
^^^^^^THIS^^^^^^^
WTF is with BM that she doesn't see the problem here?????? :sick:
This is AN ADULT sending them
This is AN ADULT sending them to a TWELVE YEAR OLD? OMG, go to the police immediately!
Definitely take action. Those
Definitely take action. Those texts are innapropriate. Seems like both of your guts are telling you something is wrong. If you feel there is something going on def. go to the police. With the phone. Maybe they can get texts that may have been deleted.
YA POLICE !! Why are you not
YA POLICE !! Why are you not taking these to the police ??
We called CPS, figuring that
We called CPS, figuring that was the first course of action and followed their advice. They didn't say to contact the police, otherwise we would have.
When is the next time your SD
When is the next time your SD goes to BM's?
There is a chance that SD
There is a chance that SD won't talk to the police about it - she may think she has "feelings" for this man and may feel she has to protect him. I would take SD to a Gyno and if she is deemed to have been sexually active at 12, well, there you go. And I think the Gyno would be obligated to contact authorities.
He does not pay for the
He does not pay for the phone. I've looked into things that could record the texts, but SO is not the primary guardian nor does he won the phone. I did just call the police and they will be having an officer contact one of us. This makes me feel marginally better and very happy for you all to give me the advice. I was worried I was overreacting, but the dispatcher said they would rather check these things out.
Oh noidea, I am sooo sorry
Oh noidea, I am sooo sorry you are all going through this, but it's better to over react than under react in these situations. I am so glad you called the police! ***HUGS****
Does BM know that this
Does BM know that this texting grossness goes on between these two? Screw CPS, I would be calling the cops
I'm glad you called the
I'm glad you called the police. I was going to add a "screw CPS call the cops" comment. hopefully they will do something. Those texts are creepy, SO creepy!
Think of it this way... if he
Think of it this way... if he has done this in the past in another state neither you or BM will know. But the police will. He may have some non association order against him from the other side of the country and he found a needy BM with a young girl. Who would know?
Can you take a "screen
Can you take a "screen photograph" with the phone that has the texts on it? You can do this on an IPhone and then send as a photo through a messaging service, to another phone. This will keep a record as evidence, if it is ever needed.
Wait wait wait.....calling
Wait wait wait.....calling the cops is a good thing. But why in the hell isn't your SO doing anything about this???? I would have called the Boy Toy immediately and told him to stop texting SD. And if he doesn't there will be some ass kicking done. BM can say oh you're just jealous of my new BF..who cares what the hell she thinks. If someone is texting that kind of shit to a 12 year old girl, he needs a good talking to and his ass beat.