Well, yesterday was interesting. It was 8:00 time for biomom to return stepdaughter after their dinner (we sort of have the reverse of usual custody; sd with us most of the time). Anyway, when biomom got there and realized that she was leaving sd with me only (dad was working) she said that she wasn't going to leave sd with just me anymore - that if she had her and it was time to return her and dad wasn't home; she'd just keep her!

Now it's worth pointing out that she (biomom) has a history of allowing boyfriends, family members, etc to pickup sd and often doesn't even see her until it's actually time to return her to our home.

anyway, just wanted to share the latest development; I'm doing a pretty good job of not letting it get to me too much. I do understand that she feels that I am a notch below her on the rights to see sd totum pole, but I also don't think it's fair for her to try to prevent us from having any one-on-one time together. And, dad usually returns shortly after she's (sd) been dropped off and its' just more practical for her to go ahead and return at the agreed upon time so she has time to get showered and ready for bed.

Then, she claimed that sd had a rash due to showering at our house with our soap... brought soap of her own even..... doesn't it occur to her that ad showers at our house far more than at hers and has been showering with same soap for a year now.

Anyway, she's just really digging for something to get all bent out of shape about.

Husband says she's doing a much slower simmer than usual - normally she just blows up after an extended period of being nice --- seems she's trying to edit herself some now that i'm in the picture too (which is good i guess)

I do understand that her situation must be awful. But, it is the way it is for a reason - and I wish she could accept it and quit making for uncomfortable situations --- her enjoy time with sd when she's with her - allow us/me to enjoy time with sd when we're with her and just not interfer with each other's time much.

Also, one thing I'm not looking forward to - this summer, everytime we have to pick her up or drop her off (sd) it'll be from biomom's house! Yuck! At least she gets the nice little boundry of being able to pick her up from school/daycare most of the time.

anyway, enough blabbing for now. Talk later.