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I just don't want to do it anymore...

newbiemommy's picture

I'm really over it. I just don't see a way out and I really do care about my SO. But I'm so over everything right now. The BMs the skids the way my SO is about it all. I'm done. I'm tired of having to give up everything of mine and everything I want for the other women and their spawn. I don't want to do it. I get nothing out of the situation. My SO is so busy playing video games and taking care of everyone else that he doesn't have anything left for me. I give and give and give and have nothing left.

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sonja's picture

I often do this as well. I get so caught up in the child support, the visitation, dealing with the BM, making sure my son isnt always second etc.. that I sit back and realize Im the only one stressing about these things. Im the only one noticing whos got more pictures out, the only one caring if BM is getting her check and that the stub is being kept up with. The only one attempting to include SD in events with her cousins etc.

Why do we care so much? The men sit back and play with their toys, hang out with their buddies while we pull our hair out over these issues. I see other people that I know have no problem considering their family=them-skids. Ive got to learn that we are a family too, SD has her own family at her BMs and we are in no way incomplete without her.

Ive learned that I have to be the working mom because BM doesnt have to be, Ive learned that BS doesnt get because SD does.. but its all making me want to just work harder to make our own way.

Good luck. Im feeling better once you can finally see things a little clearer.