Post Secondary Support
Is anyone else familiar with court ordered Post Secondary Support? My husband is court ordered to pay a portion of his sons college expenses, as petitioned by mom. I'm all for helping with college but being court ordered to pay 53%?
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My DH was ordered to pay 49%
My DH was ordered to pay 49% of his son's college tuition, as well as having an increase in Child Support given, all when the kid was 18. Our state goes to 21 for CS.
In theory, my DH was not opposed to helping his son with tuition, though at the time it was filed, SS19 was not speaking to him and hadn't been for 3 years. BM was paying out of state tuition (for immigration issues), had done nothing to look for financial aid, and SS had done so poorly in high school that he wasn't eligible for the free tuition he could have gotten at BM's place of employment.
It sucks. My SS finished one year of community college and is dropping out, what a surprise (not). So that was 5K thrown down the toilet, yet another crap decision by BM. At least it wasn't more than that. On the upside, SS is now speaking to DH, since BM was afraid she'd lose in court if they had no relationship.
Sorry, I feel your pain. DH has 19 more Child Support payments to make before this grown man is off his financial boob.
I think it's a load of crap.
I think it's a load of crap. Parents who are still married to each other are not court mandated to pay for their kids' college.
Sadly, once you get the state
Sadly, once you get the state involved, they get to decide.
BM chose to involve the
BM chose to involve the courts. I think she thought it would just extend the child support, she wasn't expecting to be forced to pay as well. Unfortunately the kiddo wasted a year at a state college before flunking, dropping out and moving back with his mom. That's $12k we'll never see again. Now he's in trade school at a community college, only contacts dad when tuition is due. No calls on dad's birthday, father's day, holidays..... Just when he needs money. It's sooooooo frustrating!!
Luckily DH's CO said that he
Luckily DH's CO said that he only had to pay at the community college that SS was in, and if he wanted to go anywhere else before 21, BM would have to petition the courts again and his grades at CC would have to be considered. Not that I'm under any illusion that she wouldn't get tuition for another school, but at least she'd have to jump through a few hoops.
At this point, my SS is just going to fail to launch from BM's house, at least for as long as she gets 1K a month to house and feed him.
I've always had an issue with
I've always had an issue with assisting someone financially and they don't even contact you. My thing is if I'm not good enough to call than I'm not good enough to help you out financially. I will never understand the audacity some people have.
Thank goodness not in my state
My state just changed to CS stops at 19 regardless of whether they are in school or not. The kid can petition the courts at 18 to ask for maintenance but once they turn 19 it’s too late if they haven’t filed by then. Luckily my Oss gets his tuition paid. Not sure how it will go with MSS. BM doesn’t have the money to pay for even 1/2 the tuition so I imagine she will not push the issue. Also, I’d DH can prove no contact from Skid for a year, the judge will either refuse them maintenance or stop it if it had started.
I think at 18 support needs
I think at 18 support needs to stop. Beyond that.. it's up to the parents and child to determine what level of support for further education they want to take on.
My 2 SD's both were aware that we weren't going to be covering their college cost.. though the younger one did try for a time to "talk us into supporting her dream to become a naval architect".. that came with a certificate that would cost upwards of 40K to attain. We declined.. and told her if "it was important enough to her.. she would find a way"... It wasn't.. and she realized it wasn't realistic.
So.. both girls went about applying for financial aid. First one blew most of her money on clothes.. didn't attend class and as a result.. didn't stay in school (community college). Younger one has been taking classes and should have her associates within a year (part time as she has worked Full Time). Her employer will continue to pay for classes as she pursues her 4 year degree. It may take her 8 years to get a 4 year degree.. but she will have zero debt and will have gained valuable work experience along the way.
There are more and more non
There are more and more non custodial paying child support past emancipation age. College support is no longer the only topic in family courts. Kids who are reported (usually by bm's) that they can not support themselves because of prior or current illness, disability, mental health etc. Some ncp are ordered to pay CS for life. I am NOT talking about physically ill adult kids who require 24hr care OR those institutionalized adult kids...most of them have ssdi that goes directly to extended care facility. God bless those poor people.
This is different....they CAN function, but they report they cant support themselves.
I would believe with all of the young kids diagnosed with something during the past 10 to 15 years that they too will become part of this gowning trend.
This is not longer only a college post secondary support issue it is a much broader scope issue.
JMO of course..well maybe just not an opinion.
My DH voluntarily helped pay
My DH voluntarily helped pay SD23's college tuition. However, SD23 is PO'd at him for not paying more because...STUDENT LOANS. Call the waaaaaaaaah-mbulance, SD23, and be thankful he paid SOMETHING. Some people have absolutely NO gratitude whatsoever.