Back to Where We Started
I posted last week about our infuriating BM and having a plan. Well that plan went to heck in a handbasket.
The good in the discussion: If DH wants to pay CS through DCSE, he can set that up without an issue. And if we want to move away and take DD with us (DH is SD), we should be able to get a move away order.
But other than that, it was horrible. She basically told DH that he needs to suck it up and that the real problem he's having is that he chose a terrible person to have kids with. While true, it's not terribly helpful. She also told us that any judge in this area would be irritated if we even filed for a clarification on our issues, and that there was an expectation that he and his ex would work things out like adults. She also (repeatedly) suggested co-parenting counselling.
So we're back to where we started.
And now, BM has sent DH an e-mail agreeing to a therapist for SS.
7 months of PAS so bad that the kid won't visit his dad and now she FINALLY agrees to therapy? Honestly, at this point, I don't want to work on reintegrating into our lives. He's 6.5, but he's a mini-BM and I don't want to even look at him. And I don't want him to feel better about coming to our house. And I don't want for his sister (SD 11) to have to deal with him. And I don't want BD 10 to have to deal with him. I like not feeling horribly unwelcome in my own house. I like not having to be afraid that he'll make some kind of accusation--or that his mother will.
I guess I'm scared. I'm scared that the relatively quiet time we're having, where SD is a nuisance, but not a problem, will go away and we're going to be locked in conflict again. I don't want to lose my marriage because I don't have the ability to put up with the level of BS that comes with that boy, and I'm terrified that will happen.
Maybe I'm just straight up overreacting. I'm prone to that. But I can't live through what some of you ladies live through. I just can't.