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Bm never sticks to her agreements

MommyMayI's picture

Bm never sticks to her agreements and no one keeps her accountable. In the court ordered therapy, bm promised dh that if he didn't have work one day, he could call bm and DH could pick up ss from school. Well, dh had the day off on Wednesday, and bm said dh couldn't pick him up. Then she told me and the therapist that she would create a Google voice account so that we could contact each other if we needed to. I set up my account and had fh text bm the number. We have been waiting for days to get the Google voice number back, but we haven't heard anything. She never does what she says and the system just lets her get away with broken promises. This is exactly why dh only makes agreements in front of this therapist. Now he can go in next week and confront bm. Very frustrating for us.

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Maxwell09's picture

Yeah I've boiled it down to two reason why I don't like her: 1. (The big one) She lets her big mouth say things she can't/won't back up or doesn't actually mean. I take things at face value so if you say something I actually think you mean it. Silly me. And 2. Shes very self-centered. Her perceptions of things are always warped to fit her reality even when there's proof she's off base. It's all about her life and how it's miserable because of us or we need to do this to make things easier for her.

But it sounds like all GUBMs are like that.

MommyMayI's picture

Thank you! That's exactly what I told dh. If she doesn't want to do something then be a freaking adult and say that. In our therapy appointment, the therapist suggested we exchange phone numbers. Because I am an adult and I have a brain, I did not agree with this and I said so maturely and respectfully. However, I had no problem using Google voice. Bm said that was a good idea. Yet, she didn't do her part. My complaint is more at the system. This is exactly why bm should not have the power to say when and where ss goes. She can't stick by what she knows is right because of her warped view of reality.

MamaDuck's picture

BM's like this NEED to look and sound good in front of the 'appropriate people'. They are sly. They get that if they are blatantly difficult, it will not go well for them, BUT if they are agreeable in the moment, [check] for appearing cooperative and then, have 'fantastic' excuses from the GUBM hand book to get around said agreement later on (too last minute, had plans, child was tired, at the time I agreed it was necessary but that is no longer the case today, blah blah) [check mate]