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How did I get to be the bad guy here..?? - VENTING -

mommabear's picture

OK so as some of you have read, we have the skids every weekend through the end of this month. Last weekend, my BS9 went to stay with his grandma... DH and I were texting the details of BS9's departure time and I said, "Would be nice if maybe skids could stay the night with your mom and we could have a quiet weekend (with the baby, of course) to which he agreed, except that he offered to take the skids home EARLY Saturday morning, rather than let them stay at his mom's all night... that way he could see them for a little while. Great! Sounds wonderful!! The minute they woke up Saturday morning, I got them dressed, hair and teeth brushed, beds made, room straightened.. all they had to do was wake up daddy to take them home!! SD7 wakes him up and as he is coming into the kitchen I hear him say to her, "Why are you in such a hurry? I'm not taking you guys anywhere for at least 4 or 5 more hours!" WHAT??? Wait a minute... what did he just say? I must have had a deer-in-the-headlights look because when I snapped back into reality he was staring at me, asking me if 'are you with me... are you here?' I said, "Umm - didn't you say you were taking them home early? Remember.. our nice quiet weekend?" Of course, he conveniently forgot our conversation and looked at me like I was a crazy person making up an evil pack of lies! I SHOWED him the text that HE sent ME... that it was HIS suggestion to take them home early! And he was still pissed - AT ME!! Fine, if he's going to be that way, then baby and I are outta here!! As I'm getting baby ready to go 'run some errands', he pokes his head in the bedroom door and says, "Don't worry, I'm taking them home now"... since they live just a hop, skip, and a jump away, he was gone all of 3 minutes, and when he walked back in the door, he VERY sarcastically says, "Hope you're happy - THEY'RE GONE!!!!!!!!!!!"

WTF... now did I really deserve that? Sorry I didn't just lay down and let you, and BM, walk all over me and dictate what I'm going to do with MY life... "F" YOU ALL!! Geesh - my feelings were so hurt, but even more I was just mad!! And then I was ignored for the better part of the rest of the day! Whatever... I happily went about my day like nothing was even wrong... makes him so mad when I act so 'oblivious' and don't kiss his ass! HA!

Anyway - just had to get that off my chest! He does that to me all the time... and expects me to just be all peachy that "we" get to spend extra time with the skids... don't drag me into this mister... I didn't ask for that kind of torture!! Sorry! Blum 3

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pck0923's picture

I have the same damn problem! I always end up being the bad guy....I came into my relationship with no kids, no ex, no drama...He doesn't know how it feels to have to deal with kids who are not his, while dealing with our own. The Skids are disrespectful, and every time I point things out...I"m picking on the kids, or they're just kids.
I'm always made to feel like shit because I just want my own family time. Is your BS or BD constantly ignored, because BD feels so obligated to entertain Skids, and once they leave he is too tired to pay attention to your baby? Mine did that all the time.