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Un-effing-believable....well, it's BM so I guess it's totally believable

MJL2010's picture

SSA threw up Wedensday morning before Christmas. BM packed him up, sent him to school, and to come to our house to infect everyone here rather than just being decent and keeping him there with her.

DS threw up two days later.

The rest of us missed the bug until Saturday after Christmas, when I got it...then DS5months got it....today DD6 threw up in school, now DH is home from work vomiting.

BM refuses to confirm that she will pick boys up from school tonight. It is technically DH's custody time but when we speak in terms of being a decent person, the right thing to do would be for her to get them. That way DH can stay home in bed where he belongs, I can take care of DS5months who still has diarrhea/vomiting and is still not eating right, DD6, and I won't have to drag them out ALL the way to the town she lives in to get the twins.

Tonight is ex-h's night with DS8 and DD6 but I have kept her so that he may be not infected with our germs...plus, I like taking care of my kids- crazy, I know.

I'm amazed but I shouldn't be. Why the hell wouldn't this be a game like any other.

(Sounds of retching)

Hope you're all staying healthy and bug-free!!

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BSgoinon's picture

Hmmm.... I am torn on this one. Our kids generally stay with the custody plan even if they are sick. The one time I kept DD9 with me was a few weeks ago, she had the stomach flu and DD11 didn't. DD11 had a softball tourney that weekend so she went to her dads, and DD9 stayed with me. That was so DD9 didn't have to go to the tourney while she was sick. I could see asking her to keep sick kids originally before everyone else got infected, but if everyone is already sick then the damage is already done.

I suppose it depends on the custody arrangement though. SS and DD's are with us as much as they are with the others, so chances are they are going to end up sick at both homes and be just as comfortable at either one.

MJL2010's picture

And viruses are tremendously successful. I get that we all may have gotten sick sooner or later regardless of her original "share". BUT I do not agree with her refusing to let DH know if she's picking up tonight!!

BSgoinon's picture

Well, that I agree with. She needs to communicate, but he really can't force her to take the kids on a night that isn't really hers. She may have plans already. It sucks when everyone can't be on the same page. When a simple phone call or text would solve the matter.

MJL2010's picture

Exactly. The fact is that they would have been without him (as he is in bed, and they would have been parented by ME for the evening) for over four hours anyway, so since we haven't heard I guess she is exercising her right of first refusal. I'm sure she'll find a way to put a negative spin on him to the boys and anyone else who'll listen, anyway. Good ol' BM.