Not even his BD
My SO has a SD10 (sort of) of his own. She is not my SO's biological child but he has raised her since she was a toddler. SO has always introduced and completely considers her as his own. Things between SD10 and myself were difficult to say the least. She ease dropped, spied, lied and caused as much trouble as possible, conspiring with or manipulated by BM the entire time.
We didn't miss a step and she didn't get away with anything. She had rules and they stuck no matter how bad she got. SO and I would come up with different conclusions and ideas to make things better but nothing really worked. Finally she would hate coming here and although SD10 seemed happy she would go home to BM and tell another story; she was effected by being here and would upset herself.
SO and I decided to give her an ultimatum. She would either stay and change her behavior and attitude and we would be able to work it out with her or she could leave and think about what she was missing and come back after 6 months still needing to change her behavior and attitude. She was fine with leaving and coming back. She was actually doing really good with it. She would still talk to SO on the phone and tell him everything that was new with herself but right afterwards BM would rant and rave about inaccurate things to do with SO and SD10.
Soon enough the phone calls stopped all together. She just turned 10 earlier this month and she wouldn't even talk to SO so he could wish her happy b-day. SD10 is either in the shower or not at home and doesn't return his calls. SO asked BM what was up with SD10 and she casually said nothing about it. SO thinks the entire situation is BM's hateful nature keeping them apart.
My thing is SD10 isn't his BD. She doesn't care about us but he continues to count her like she's here and wants us to pretend she's going to want to come back again. I don't want another fight but I feel like telling him to get the hint she doesn't want anything to do with us. I am happy with the way things are, my BD my 2 Skids and the 1 on the way. Just want to let the time pass but what if she does want to come back? I don't want to raise that child. Things were so bad with her I don't want that again. Just wanna read some "What do you think?'s".