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MiserableSM101's picture

Finally made the decision to leave. My 3 month old and I will be moving in with my parents temporarily until I can get back on my feet since I haven't been working since covid started in March. I'm completely heartbroken that I am losing my partner but I know this is the best decision for my daughter and I. The relationship just isn't worth sacrificing my mental health any longer. I deserve to be happy and my baby deserves to have a happy mom. 

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ndc's picture

Good luck to you. You lasted a lot longer in this situation than I would have.  I hope you're able to work out a custody arrangement with your baby's father that doesn't put your daughter at risk (physical or emotional) due to his other daughter.

MiserableSM101's picture

I told him he is more than welcome to come to my parents house and visit with our daughter on the nights his other daughter is with her mom. I'm hoping we can work out a schedule where our dd will go to his house when his other daughter is with her mom for the weekend. Sad it has to be like that. 

JRI's picture

I'm sorry for you because I remember how emotionally wrenching it is to leave.  But after reading your blogs about SD4, I know you are doing the only safe, sensible thing for yourself and DD.  Stay strong, Mom.  Hoping for the best for you.  

ESMOD's picture

Wow.. it unfortunately sounds like your soon to be EX has not done a very good job at parenting his child.. and you have had to deal with a lot of the fall out.

You need to seek legal counsel as soon as possible of course.  Your biggest concern is that it is likely he will seek and recieve some custody.. and with him having full custody of his other child.. and you have concerns about your baby being around her.  How will he guarantee your baby's safety when he is not currently parenting the child properly while you ARE there.?

MiserableSM101's picture

Luckily he has absolutely NO money for a lawyer after spending so much on his other daughter. My parents have offered to help me with paying for one. I told him he can come visit dd at my parents house when he doesn't have his other daughter. Sad it has to be like this but I do not want her around dd at all. 

The_Upgrade's picture

Imagine how guilty you would feel if you never left and your DD ended up physically injured or mentally traumatised by constant exposure to your damaged SD. In your place I would've made the only choice I could live with. And that would be to leave just like you did. Don't doubt your gut feeling, stay strong.