This is the first time that I have ever done this, but need someone to vent to because of the frustrations that I am currently facing at home between my husband and my kids and stepson. My husband has never had any problem in disciplining my sons whenever it seemed to be warranted and sometimes when it wasn't warranted. My stepson has recently moved in to our house about 5 months ago and he has done some things that he should be disciplined for and his father has not stepped up to the plate to do so. I have voiced my frustrations to my husband, but he just ends up bringing my kids into the conversation when they are not the subject of discussion. I am so frustrated lately that my emotions are getting the best of me and I cry at the drop of a hat. I just don't know what to do. My stepson has taken our alcohol, smoked cigarettes in our vehicles, among other things. After telling his father that he needs to be disciplined, he says okay and then picks and chooses the day and items he can do, but for the most part lets him do what he wants. He will also bring up one of my kids and say how is he going to get disciplined for something that they might have done that I don't feel needs to be disciplined for. When he would discipline my kids, it was for a determined amount of time with loss of privileges along with it. I just am at my wits end and don't know what to do. Communication with my husband is not an option and I've asked him to attend some type of counseling so we can get on the same page with having a blended family, but he won't do it because he doesn't feel that we need counseling and can fix this between us. I can't communicate with him because he just turns it around so that I feel I am the bad person. I try to pick my battles, but sometimes my frustrations get the best of me and I just blurt. Any suggestions would be appreciated.