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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Wed, 04/18/2018 - 7:01pm

Long story short, because I accidentally deleted my long drawn out blog: My SS7 has two brothers, my son and his mother's other son from Babydaddy2. Stepmom2 reached out to me after being introduced to me through a mutual friend at the ball field last year. We have since becomes friends and message daily. I have helped her through some of her BM struggles. Stepmom2 recently posted a picture and tagged me in it. BM stalks Stepmom2 and found out that we are friends. BM has now decided to be friendly towards Stepmom2. They've been chatting and coparenting ever since. In fact Stepmom2 spoke barely a few words to me at the ballfield the other night and then went and sat next to BM and her pose (SS7 had practice and then Spawn had a game right after so she came for to watch her skid) which I am not upset about it. In fact I encourage Stepmom2 to play nice with BM for as long as BM is because they do not have a custody order and it's the only way Stepmom2 will get to be involved. 

My interest is this: why is BM being friendly now all of a sudden, Stepmom2 has been around for a year and BM has invited them over to her house for Spawn's last birthday and was rude to him and ignored her? And that wasn't the only time as they were seeing each other every wedensday for Spawn's little ninja class on wednesdays too and BM just ignored her then too. Why is she going out of her way so far as messaging stepmom2 almost daily now to coparent with her? Can BM change her GUBM spots or do you think she's just faking it for some reason? She is absolutely not coparenting with us. She refuses to give SS to us during any of her times even if its for a funeral and for us to not even ask. She doesn't speak to us, she pretends like we are invisible which is fine. DH sends her all school and medical info through email so it's not like there's much to text about...but it's just strange to me that she's done a complete 180 with this second stepmom....but keep in mind SS is living with us and Spawn only sees his dad/stepmom2 every other weekend (if that). 

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Wed, 04/18/2018 - 7:50pm

Envy. She is beyond envious of you and your DH. She is putting on a show to make herself feel better, or more likely, to try and make you feel worse. She thinks she has leverage now with SM2.

Just remember that BM and SM2 could become friends, or at least SM2 may think they are friends. She may act as a spy in the interest of everyone co-parenting. Tread lightly here and feel this out.

That is, of course, if you care. My guess is that you are willing to cut SM2 out of your life just as quickly as you did/do BM, so really, you have very little to lose aside from whatever personal information you have disclosed to SM2.