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marissamae88's picture

I wrote a blog yesterday about not being a happy camper and not really knowing why and blah blah blah. This morning it hit me I feel taken advantage of. I pick up the boys everyday, I cook everyday, I get them ready for bed everyday, I clean up after them and its fine but my SO is never around. I mean he used to be around all the time and now he is working so much. I feel guilty bringing this up because I know he is working and I know how his place of business is. I used to work their but I am frustrated because he is the manager and if he really wanted to be here more often I think he could be. I didnt want kids for myself so I havent had any. I enjoy being a mom to these boys more than I ever thought I would but I dont think I should be doing this much work. I wouldnt have chosen to have kids and if I did I wouldnt have had four back to back. I feel like he isnt home because its work to be here I mean raising kids are hard but THEY ARE HIS! I cant blame him for all of it because I havent brought it up so technically he doesnt know I feel this way.I want to avoid confrontation but I think I am going to have to tell him that I cant keep going like this. I feel like a single mom sometimes and I have never given birth to a child and I am only 22. ehhhh anyone else want to go on strike with me??

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VioletsareBlue's picture

I do! I know how you feel. My DH is home most of the time, but I still feel resentful regarding money and my SDs and everything else that goes with it. I'm learning how to disengage. I think I will not discipline them or do anything else for them unles I WANT TO. Not out of some guilty feeling of responsibility. I will not let them walk all over me or treat me like crap, but I'm not going to get involved any longer.

newmom01's picture

I know ...I wasnt doing ALL OF THAT, but I was picking them up sometime and cooking and stuff when my hubby was at work then Im like wait a minute....i dont have no kids I was 30 when we got married and would have waited a year of two to "Enjoy the Honeymoon" but what honeymoon, they started comin over MORE after we got married! so since I was taking care of kids all the time I went ahead and started having my own!!!!! Only downside is when they come over her house is empty and I have four boys in mine!!! BUT ....Since I do have two babies thats my excuse now ...I tell him I cant take care of all these kids! If you aint here then they dont need to be here..they are here to visit you! Thier Dad not me