Oh SURE I, Majka, who works her butt off, and never asks for a thing… would LOVE to pay your bills, you POS BM.

This is my feelings right now… a little back story. I apologize that this will be long.

My DH has 2 children with BM, ages 3 and 4. The BM currently lives across the country.

DH and I are both military members, not making that much money, and the funny part about this whole thing (or not funny at all) is that my SKids BM is the FINANCIAL ADVISOR for a huge apartment company... yet she can’t pay her own bills, and because of my luck (and my DHs shortfalls) we are responsible for paying her bills if she doesn’t. Why you ask? Because my husband cosigned for her car when they were married, along with an apartment and other things... this is coming back to bite us now... she has stopped paying her bills, my husband and I therefore have to pay them, or my DH loses his job (security clearance issues).

I hate it I hate it I hate it I hate it. This month alone, along with paying for the two Skids (over $1000 in childcare, they are with us at the moment) we have had to pay over $800 in her bills. She does not give us a penny in CS (again, husbands fault for not setting an amount in the divorce decree).

The way that their agreement is set up is that THEY (BM and DH) will ‘talk’ about everything, and figure it out amongst themselves. Does anyone see an issue with this besides for me?? Yes, this means that BM is able to DEMAND money from my DH whenever she want, along with there being no clear visitation lines. SO this leaves us with the situation we have at hand. The way it has worked so far was that my DH would pay the childcare ($1,200 each month) while the children were with him, AND when they are with her… she does not pay a cent, ever.

My DH told BM that he wanted to get an amendment to the divorce decree stating CS. The reasoning behind this was that the children have been with us since June. They are not likely to leave until February (because BM is a POS and can’t get her life together… more interested in making up for lost party time, and children are SUCH an inconvenience.) If BM were to be paying us the CS that she should, we would have almost gotten $10,000 by the time they left. DH told BM he wanted to get the amendment, and she freaked out… rightfully so, after all, CS REALLY cuts into her drinking money, shucks.

She then went on to threaten my DH with “OK, you want to play this game, then I want the children back before Christmas!” My DH is greatly hurt by this, he loves his children, would do anything to have them away from this crazy bitch. He tell her that no, they will be staying the time that we originally agreed to (Feb 1st).

This situation is so stressful for me. I hate that I am paying her bills, that she is out having the time of her life, and we are paying for her irresponsibility, and then she is hanging the kids over our heads. I have broken down many times this last week. It seems like every week we get another notice in the mail from the collections agency, that we MUST pay this bill (hers) or it will be sent to collections, and our credit will be ruined.

My DH would love to fight BM for full custody, or at least custody during the school year, but I feel that it would be a huge waste of money because we would pay all these fees, only to have the judge look at my husbands career, say there is a chance that he will deploy, and not be there full time, and give the kids to BM, who cannot support herself, much less two kids, and leave them with strangers so she can go have sex, and carts them around, with them there while she parties, and has driven drunk with them in the car many many times. She has a different man almost every week, and gives them keys to her place, along with SO SO many other things… frankly, the kids are not safe with her, but because my husband is a man, he will get the short end of this deal. It’s not fair.

Sorry for the long rant, I am upset.