Being a step parent started out not so bad when SD was 13. The ruthless teen years ahead (14,15,16,17, and 18)unfolded a journey that I somehow managed and still manage to deal with. SD graduates this year and I am proud of her, for there were many nights and days of being grounded from phone and a social life because of grades, disrespect,and bullshit drama. I still deal with the isolation and distant relationships of MIL and cousin because of the lies said in the past to them about me. No problem- disengaged from them. SD contends that she gets along with me on a day to day basis (dependent upon her mood of course) and we rarely engage in a conversation. She makes that quite clear with one word answers when I do ask a question. Again, No problem-I treat you the way you treat me. I am not on a power trip or anything of the sort, in my home, there is only room for ONE woman of the house. That title is earned when you establish your OWN home, work, keep a clean home, do laundry, pick up after yourself and demonstrate responsibility by paying your own bills. Just because your blood to my Dh does NOT give you automatic entitlement to things in which I work hard for as well. Should I choose to share, I will, but do not think I the step parent owe it to you- I don't. Your father and I have provided for you, whereas BM has told you to get what you can out of US, all the while not giving you anything but what you want as far as no rules at her temporary and always changing residence. She gets all the credit of being a great mom, wow such loyalty and I expected that. I just wanna know, will you ever fix the damage of relationships you caused? I doubt it, as you say I didn't and never do anything wrong. I am not in a competition with you, even though you mimic my dress, my actions, and sometimes even my reactions. I take this as a form of being a positive role model in your life. You cannot hurt me anymore, I won't allow it. Thank you for making me stronger emotionally and mentally!! I survived and will continue to survive despite your BM evilness and jealousy. SD, Hope you handle karma in life as well as you dealt out vindictiveness and disrespect. Happy Graduation!

Love Step mom