slandered for years....
its been two years and counting also going on the 2nd child with DH and meeting his family is out of the question..... his fathers side i've meet some relatives but his mothers side they believe im the cause of the on going divorce battle and made up their minds about me. as for his fathers side their are some who have an open mind and some who have made up minds. DH's so called ex has slandered me, she has a big mouth, filled with lies and made up stories worst thing about it is their oldest son16 believes it all too and ignores DH during visitation. he knows who i am and what i look like without even meeting me... DH's ex has searched the web for pics on fb and myspace for me and showed it to everyone she knows... they even view my profile on myspace often.... my counts of viewers are off the charts on a daily basis.... yes i know childish... the ex thinks its all a GAME.... what she is doing online isnt chiddish according to her...
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ugh...this is certainly a
ugh...this is certainly a pickle! And I have no advice ; ( Sorry you are going through this! You my friend have...stalkers! Play back! C'mon - why would someone excuse you of being the cause of an ongoing divorce? WTH? Seriously? What is wrong with these people? Why wouldn't you just want to end a freaking divorce and get it over with!
@ unbelievable.... thanks for
@ unbelievable.... thanks for the comment... as for playing the game back nah... did i mention she is the one doing this online crap and she turns around tell myDH family and friend that im staarting all this online.... so you see i wont even play back and n e ways i know half the people who are stalking my sites... oh get this if you comment on my myspace she will look you up too.... ive had friends of friends tell eachother stay out of it cause she is nuts.... lol....... as for the divorce she is trying every little thing to stay married even mediation...lol
congratulations on the second
congratulations on the second child i am on the second one as well. my bd and i come from two very different worlds my grandmother raised me and did want anything to do with him for the longest time because of this. after time she gradually accepted it and now everything is fine. my bd family talks about me that i am too possessive and blah blah but whats important is that he loves you and supports u and i am sure that he does. when my gm did not want bd at family functions to support him, even though it hurt me i refused to go. i think that this helped the process too. as for his bm she talked about me but thats what the ex bm do, talk about the new bm its like nature or something. for the family to think that u caused a divorce all on ur own is kinda ignorant of them in my opinion. i think that most of the time a relationship has to have an underlying issue to cause cheating unless they are like a sex addict or something. just hang in there it will make the relationship stronger once its all over
@ch21.... congrats as well...
@ch21.... congrats as well... thanks for the comment.... for the record we werent cheating... he had already left and not knowing that he was still legally married scared me... we gave it a few months but his children are what we were looking at so we decided to let go and he went back to try and fix it BUT you cant change a person if they dont want to mentally.... then again she is not to blame with her marriage going down the ddrain... cuz she says nothing is wrong with her... lol... so he left again... when he came around i didnt even want us together until his divorce was final BUT his mother told me thaat this is the most important time he needs me so i guess... oh did i mention that we were and always have been bestfriends... our history goes back 20 years... so you see its a long story... this is not the first time we split up for his kid... it happen years ago too.... thats another reason his ex hates me....
go to her page and block the
go to her page and block the ex. then she can't stalk you because she can't find you unless she gets another id. after i blocked the ex, i never saw her again and i got to feeling peaceful and less stalked.
i feel for you, but you are having babies with this man. his family can accept or not.
you probably should stear clear of them, they sound like they believe the BMs rants about you.
i've had a bad name with our BM for 10 years. it is sickening that she can hate someone who helps her children. teaching kids to hate is like giving them poison.
awe, you take care of yourself and be extra nice to yourself since you have to deal with all this b.s.
@ddakan... believe me i've
@ddakan... believe me i've blocked her but i knwo she still has ways to find me i think i have the longest block list on fb... as for myspace there are ways and i figure them out when she reponses to my status by txting DH... thats how she get caught... its all good n e way cuz im learning from her... as for the family i dont care... i have my own family and friends i dont need n e more... lately DH doesnt even go to his gathereing cuz of this he feels they take her side too... or believe evrything she says... your right about teaching your babies about hate it is taught and only someone as close as a moother can teach it.... but being with us its different and its ok... in time the kids will know the difference... thanks for the comment... i dont stress with this bs... myself and DH have a very understanding relationship... im grateful to God for that...
id say its time to block the
id say its time to block the bm and all the family on facebook and set both your myspace and facebook to friends only! im sorry youre going through this, hope things will eventually work out for the better.
@ iwishyouwould... thanks for
@ iwishyouwould... thanks for the comment... she is blocked all ways from sunday including her close friends and family but believe me she will find a way... here and example... say she see a pic of us on fb or myspace and someone she knows knows you... she will have that person call you or message you to ask qquestions about me... she'll evn call my place of work and try and get info there.... she has no limits she even thinks shes above the law... she thinks she can change court ordeers on her own.... lol... things are getting better slowly and my prayers are being answered...
@crayon... is tht a good or
@crayon... is tht a good or bad thing????
I thought so as well. There
I thought so as well. There used to be another on here with almost the same, exact s/n as this one.
I certainly do hope for all that it is not the same person. }:)
Lovesthemall- How many kids in all do you have full time?
@ butterflykisses... ive been
@ butterflykisses... ive been told a at least 4 times about this other person someone even suggested i change my sn... but it funny cuz im that persons complete oppisite.... that bad....
3 going on 4
ive tried to change my user name jus so all the comfusion will end but it wont let me and i like my user name cuz i really do lovethemall even if their BM is a pain in my neck....
I am an "in their face" kind
I am an "in their face" kind of guy. It is time to quit avoiding them and put yourself out there to be visible and noticed every chance you get.
Be conspicuous in your happiness and in your excitement about your relationship with your DH. Express your happiness on FB.
The point is that toxic idiots like you describe BM, her friends, family and parts of your DHs family being are like cockroaches. They are active in the dark but when you turn on a light they run for a dark corner. Being happy is your light and they will run the like the cockroaches when you illuminate the room by being positive and happy.
Enjoy their scramble for the shadows and particularly that nice juicy CRUNCH they make when you step on them with your excitement and happiness.
By being conspicuously happy you win and they loose if they do not engage with you.
@rags.... i thought about it
@rags.... i thought about it that way too lol... but now the family gathering have slowed down... half of them are travaling.... its all good tho... thaanks for the comments... i really liked it especilly coming from a guy.... right now nothing really matters cuz we as a family are coming together...