new to all this and its sad to say that it took almost two years to be within five feet of my stepchildren. its worse that nothing is final. we are in seperate houeses two days out of the week. i read and read to see if anyone else has a compicated stepfamily also to get info. not all of them are with us the oldest has the hardest time and i understand that. i have two kids also that are around the same age and its nuts because i see a VERY BIG difference between them. im not saying im a perfect person but im one that doesnt like to even use the word (HATE). i try not to have any bad/negative actions or phases towards my own children and its sad to know that my stepchildren are expose to it all the time.