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Nitwits Latest Ploy!

LONGTIME SM's picture

H had too much to drink a few days ago and ends up calling SS 35 unfortunately. SS 35's end of the conversation was a repeat of exactly what it has been since H's mother died going on 3 years ago now. What was SS 35 going to inherit, berating his father for not doing enough from him - his mother did more for him than H did(money handouts), complaining about not getting enough handouts when H's mother and grandmother died, complaining about not being treated the same as minor BDs, telling us how to raise minor BDs ----- and on and on....... SS had the audaciity to tell H what he wanted to inherit! Who does this!!!!!!!! SS 35 is angry that his mother made bad decisons and now has next to nothing and that his dad has very litle. SS 35, in my opinion, seems obsessed with trying to get his hands on my property as I am the only one that has anything. He seems to feel entitled to my property (bought with my own funds not h's) despite the fact that he has never had one nice thing to say to me. (Is he delusional!) Biggrin

When H doesn't promise that he will give him what he asked for SS 35 has the audacity to tell H that " he did not pass the test". What is this..... hello, he has a wife and three other children - two of which are still minors!!!

SS 35 then goes on to rant about how he wants to be treated the same as BDs. When H asks how he expects this to happen as he is 35 and BDs are both still minors who we need to support - SS 35 refuses to specify. In the past this rant was about "christmas presents"??? while I don't know for sure waht this latest rant is about I do know one thing for sure I will never again take anything away from supporting my BDs in order to appease him. I am so over it.

Yet he continues to "claim" that he misses BDs!!! :sick: SS 35 demanded to know why SDs will not return calls or texts. Hello -- SS 35 never had a realtionship with them before this! SDs are old enough to see his actions, have overheard him saying that he wants them to get less because he wants the same even though he is a middle aged man now and we already supported his behind ...(you can imagine how this made BDs feel toward him!!!!!) They have also heard and seen how ugly he has been to their parents! BDs are old enough now to know what is going on and they have watched and observed. I thought that even the dimmest dim wit would realize that children love thier parents and do not like others that bad mouth them - they defend them - but this seems to elude SS35, SD 34 , and ODUH BM. Even after h telling SS 35 all of this he can't understand why they would not talk to him!!!! Un-freaking believable!!!!! :jawdrop:

SS35 then had the nerve to ask why BDs were not allowed to sleep over at SD 34s house after skids stopped talking to H in an effort to try to blackmail H into giving them his inheritance 3 years ago! BDs are our children and our decisons are none of SS 35's concern - we make the decisons and if we do not want BDs around crazy people that are openly jealous of them that is our right!!!! PLus why is SS 35 still bringing this up. It is now DONE - BDs do not want to EVER spend the night at SD 34s house again - they are years older than her children and they have now outgrown that phase! Plus they both had told me that they were not comfortable at SD 34s house, were scared of her husband, and did not like BM. Plus the fact that now that I know that BM snuck over when my kids were there - my BDs will never go back there or anywhere else BM will be!

Of course then SS 35 shows his true colors in this phone conversation by trying to guilt H into coming out to his double wide out in the woods at 4 or 5 in the afternoon when he knows that minor BDs need someone to come home to take care of them. SS 35 says this is part of his test of H - he told H that H had to prove to SS 35 that he wanted to be his father and of course the only way to do it is to take him away from BDs. When H told him he couldn't come then beccause someone had to be here he asked how old BDs were. SS35 actaully told H that YBD at 12 years old should be left alone to take care of herself, drive herself to after school activities, and cook herself dinner!!!! Yeah he really cares about BDs!!!!!!!!!!B.S. :jawdrop:

For Skids information, BDs do not want to talk to, text, or call either one of them. Bds have said on numerous occaisions that they resent the fact that Skids try to contact them and involve them in their mess and ugliness. BDs feel that they are just trying to use and manipulate them and are angry that skids think that they will not be able to see that. Did I mention that BDs are much smarter even at thier age than either adult skid is! BDs are also very resentful that Skids are jealous of them and what I give them. It just goes to show how delusional Skids are if they think that their actions over the past 3 years would not have affected their relationship with BDs especially since neither of the Skids were close to either BD (there is a 20-24 year age differance)!!!! BDs want Skids to leave them alone! Yes - I am fed up and working on blocking their phone numbers whether H likes it or not. BDs do not want contact so I plan to suport them.

Of course the next day H gets phone call from SD 34 trying to smooth things over. SD 34 all of a sudden is soooooo friendly to H (see last post) SD 34 tells H that SS 35 can't seem to let go of the past and that she and BM have told him that!!!!! I informed H that this just proves exactly what I said was going on. They get together over every miniscule contact with us to dissect it and plan their next move!!!! Not 24 hours later SS 35, SD 34 and BM 60 got together to rehash SS 35's phone conversation and decide what to do next. I quess it was decided that SD 34 would call H, pretend she was all nicey nice with him and let him know how much she and her mother supported him!!! They honestly think that we are that stupid! Unfreakin believable!!!!! :sick:

This is the same SD that would not even talk to H for the last three years and has erupted into screaming fits on the few occaisions that she did agree to talk to him. This is the same SD that refused to talk ot BDs when she last saw them (BIG MISTAKE). SD 34 also informed H that she was leaving her kids and her husband at home this labor day weekend to go with BM and SS 35 on an out of town trip. I can only wonder about those sleeping arrangements - SICK!!! I dread what they will come up with after spending all of that time on the road venting about my fanily and sticking their nose into our life.

It occurs to me as I write this that their hatred of us is what binds these three together. If they did not have us to bash and to dissect every action or inaction we take what would they even have in common other than the fact that they are delusional, crazy and have expolsive tempers. They seem to thrive on getting together and bashing H and the rest of us. They spend inordinate anounts of time examining and finding criticisms in everything we do. It is so pathetic that at 60 almost 30 years after her divorce from H that she is still so interested in our lives and spends her time plotting against us with Skids!

I wish BM would meet someone so she would get her nose out of my life and stop meddling. It would also give the skids someone else to focus on!!!!

Other than paying someone to feign interest in BM does any one have any suggestions. Disengaging is getting difficult with all of this gong on.

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LizzieA's picture

Have your DH write them out of the will. Or write one yourself stipulating that no money is to go to them, only to your BDs. Then tell them they are disinherited and to pound sand. Sit back and laugh as you watch them explode. Send Haz Mat crew for clean-up.