Hard to deal with "step daughter"
My SO& I have been together 3 years. He has 1 daughter from a previous relationship. BM is a mess,pure drama, In and out if rehab, from man to man, and SO has primary custody. He didn't tell his daughter he was in a relationship for at least a yr and continued to keep contact between the two of us at a minimal until the last yr maybe. We've all started doing more things together because I finally told him I thought we needed time together to bond. I wouldn't say we've bonded much. She's an only child who's very soiled, very much entitled, &is generally disrespectful to her dad&grand parents. She just had a birthday&had to be told twice to say thank you for the gifts and she complained there was no money in the card. When she's acting disrespectful or saying disrespectful things to her dad, I don't correct or discipline her, I let her dad do that, which is only half the time.I could go on&on about her rude behavior. If she see's her dad showing me affection or attention she stops that fast. I've tried inviting her to go places& doing things with me but she always says I don't know. I just don't know how to integrate myself into their lives. Also, when my SO&I talked about marriage,he says when SD gets older(she's 10)&he doesn't want to RUIN HER LIFE. Not sure if I'm fighting a losing battle&I've made it clear I'm not waiting until SD has graduated HS bf getting married.