What the ....
DH and I had a bad Tuesday and Wednesday. Tuesday, I asked SD16 to clean bathroom sink and empty the bathroom trash. I asked SS22 to clean the toilet and scrub the shower stall. Nothing happened; neither of them did it. Wednesday came, DH senses something is wrong with me. Yea, I was pissed because I don't normally ask them to do anything. And I want all of you to know that they are PIGS, by my standards, of course.
SD16 has all her clothes (including G-String underwear) all over her bedroom floor, bottles of soda on every surface of her room, dirty tampons for all to see in the bathroom trash and burps at the dinner table.
DD22 wipes his greased up hands on the kitchen towel, his room stinks, leaves towels on the bathroom floor, shaves and leaves the bathroom sink with whiskers and leaves empty cans/containers in the refrigerator/pantry.
Back to Wednesday:
I basically told my DH that I'm not happy here. I can't stand that the kids are pigs and they don't respect him. If he tells them to do something, they ignore him. So they only do things if he loses his temper. His response was that the kids aren't going to change. Hmmmm.....how much do I love this man? Really? Well, I love him a lot, but he made a mistake with these kids. They are GOOD kids (good in school, SS22 is in last year of college, they both have jobs and they do take care of each other). BUT THEY ARE PIGS!!!
I don't like our solution, but I love my DH enough to try this: we decided that if they're asked to do something, and they don't listen, he'll just do it! Ugh!! He's such a pussy!!!! But whatever.
And another thing: I could swear SD16 burps out loud just to piss me off. While we eat, she and her brother burp loudly (most of the time its her), don't ever say excuse me, they slurp their drinks......WTF!!!!
Is it just me? Am I asking for too much? I mean, I truly don't get it. I'm still not 100% convinced that I'm hanging around for the six more years SD is going to be living with us. I really wish they would both leave!!!!
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Well to be fair, you should
Well to be fair, you should know that the 22yr old does pay the cable bill and internet bill. So, it's not "rent", but he pays something. DH says 22yr old has been talking about moving out. At the same time, DH says that hopefully when he finishes college he'll get a good job offer, which leads to my question, "so if he doesn't get a good job offer, he's gonna stay?"
It's funny you ask about the dorms because my BS19 goes to college just 5 minutes from here and he lives in the dorm. Granted, his tuition, room and board and meals are paid for with the GI Bill, so he can afford. SS21 doesn't have that, so we'd have to pay $6000 a year for him to stay at the dorm.
Even funnier, when DH brought up the fact that SD16 is here for six more years (two years of high school and four years of college), he said, "Unless you're gonna pay for her dorm." I think I'm gonna do that. It's worth the money.
It's just hard living with kids not your own. I want my marriage to work, I really do. Th
Sounds like I need to start
Sounds like I need to start another savings account..."dorm living savings account" shall be the title....
Yeah!!!! That's what I'm
Yeah!!!! That's what I'm talking about!! I left to the military when I was 18 and it was the best thing I did for myself!! I had no choice but to grow up and be responsible.
we decided that if they're
we decided that if they're asked to do something, and they don't listen, he'll just do it!
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Actually this is not a bad deal for you. This is exactly how DH and I do it.
Example...SS leaves dishes in the sink, so I tell DH to have SS clean them up. If DH does not tell him or they are not done before SS goes to school, work, play, then DH has to get his lazy butt up and do them. lol
It took about 2-3 weeks before DH came down hard on SS to keep teh house clean.
PS. They are not allowed drinks or food anywhere except kitchen area.
I'm gonna practice
I'm gonna practice respectfully saying what I really think.
The next time SD16 burps around me, I'm gonna respectfully tell her, "Sweetie (sarcastically), it's rude and disgusting to burp loudly, especially when it's done intentionally. I wish you would stop doing that."
what I really want to say, "your fucking pig! you're almost 17 and you behave like an animal!" But I love my DH so, I'll refrain from talking that way to his ungrateful little bastards. I wouldn't it if he spoke to my boys that way, so.
If she does it again after me respectfully telling her, I'm not eating with them again.
DH is obviously going to be offended, but he doesn't care that she's offensive to me so the hell with it. You're right, I'll just eat before them.