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lisa510's picture

Last week i had a talk with DH about SS22 having his girlfriend over weekend after weekend. He finally got the balls to tell his son that having his gf here every weekend to play house was really getting old.

I was really proud of him for doing this. GUESS WHAT!!! SHE'S BACK!! WTF!!!

Why do these people think it's okay to use our home as a motel. Being that my DH is a pushover, I highly doubt he's gonna say anything.

I'm soooooo pissed off right now!!!

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lisa510's picture

Well, I took your advice. I'm moving really slow today (bad back) so I heard the girlfriend come out of SS's room and went to talk to her. She drove off before I could make it out of my room. But, I called her and told her.

Background: the sleeping over thing has been happening since I moved in with DH. I personally can't stand it. If you want to screw someone, get your own place or pay a motel.

I was surprised last weekend when DH tells me he's sick of it too. This past week he told SS to stop it. No respect, though. This weekend, the GF is back!! His kids don't respect him; DH is such a jellyfish. He said to me that he didn't want to say anything before because his son would get mad at him. I've never heard of anything more absurd!!!

So I called GF and told her that I was through with providing a motel for her and SS. I told her it makes us uncomfortable and that i was through with it! She, so eloquently stated: "Okay."

this issue did make my DH and argue though. he just doesn't get it . now my son is living here, so DH is starting to nit pick at him - like a retaliation sort of thing.

ugh......

ddakan's picture

Ha ha, foxie, you're so cute! You can tell ss you are not enjoying this sleepover crap and that if he wants to play house, then get his own!

ddakan's picture

Ha ha, foxie, you're so cute! You can tell ss you are not enjoying this sleepover crap and that if he wants to play house, then get his own!

ddakan's picture

Ha ha, foxie, you're so cute! You can tell ss you are not enjoying this sleepover crap and that if he wants to play house, then get his own!

ddakan's picture

Ha ha, foxie, you're so cute! You can tell ss you are not enjoying this sleepover crap and that if he wants to play house, then get his own!

Shannon61's picture

You've got to put your foot down on DH again. Instead of telling him SS and girlfriend need to take a break from staying over night, tell him that she's not allowed to stay over night going forward . . period. If they want to lay up, let SS get his own place or a hotel. It's not only inappropriate but disrespectful as well.

I had this issue w/SD (27) who still lives at home. Before we got married I told DH I didn't feel comfortable with her BF staying overnight. So sure enough, one night he came over and stayed over night. The next day I put pressure on my DH and he did put pressure on SD. It's no longer an issue. Not sure what he allowed before I moved in, but I was dead set against this from the start. Nip this now or she'll practically move in and you'll only get more frustrated.

lisa510's picture

DH has very low standards for his kids. He believes that as long as the kids don't do drugs and aren't thugs, they're fine. They don't respect him (turn their backs when he talks, walk away, don't answer him; they don't lift a finger in the house).

I told my son (19) when he moved in, "No girlfriends spending the night." He understands that very well. My son goes to college full time and is looking for a job (SS22 has a job and is about to graduate in May). Because he's doesn't have a job, I have help me errands. I'd tell him to sweep and mop, empty the dishwasher and clean the bathrooms, but I don't think he should have to do what the skids won't do. SD17 lives here too and she doesn't do crap!!! She leaves her long hairs in the sink and in the tub. Leaves toothpaste spit in the sink, doesn't ever take out the trash -- she does absolutely nothing.

Your predicting g/f will be here next week? Well if that happens, I'm just wait to see how DH handles it. But I'm not gonna wait long at all.

DH was mad at me yesterday because after I called the girlfriend, SS and she came over, collected her things and left. SS didn't come back. I'm sure they spent the night at her parents' house.

What gets me is that DH agreed that he was sick of her spending the night and when we do something about it, he gets mad at me. I think it's a crock of shit. And I don't think prohibiting kids or skids from using our house as the booty-call rendezvous is bad.

youngmama1b1g's picture

Maybe instead of straight saying "you cant be here", have them ask for permission before the weekend starts. You can explain that if there is a guest to come over for the night, the house should be up to a certain standard. By saying you want advanced notice, it also doesnt just put the kid out which at his age he will just resent you and your H for. However, I don't mention how often you have to agree with it.
If you really are completely against co-habitation. For reasons other than feeling like a cheap motel then you should probably have dare i say a family meeting, involving the SS GF where you tell them the reasoning why you are against sleepovers and ask them to refrain from it at your house.