Well, I am Going to be in Sh*t Tonight
I have been going insane thinking about the SS's moving back to our place, which will likely be this weekend if they didn't end up doing as their BM told them to all week. I have not been able to muster up the courage to talk to my DH about it, he gets so f*&king defensive I just feel sick thinking about talking to him.
So I texted him, this morning. Here's what I said. (( I know, I am a coward.... but you know what? I am literally losing my mind thinking about those two returning to our house.))
"you know we are going to have to discuss the rules aroudn the boys living at our house. I ma not bitching or giving you a hard time, so don't defensive. But they both need to be paying rent, going to college full time or they cannot live at our house for free. They are adults and they need to contribute. I know you don't like it when I text you, but we can talk about it tonight too.
I am not going to fighting with you constatnly about them anymore, the last year and half was very hard on our marriage. We fought all the time. They will have to be forced to follow the rules, pay their share and be courteous, or its just not going to work. I am sure you know what I mean.
I would do the same with my kids. Don't think I am being a bitch or anything, but when you work all day, it doesn't seem right to talk to you about stuff that makes me stressed. I just really need you to understand where I am coming from. Yes, you have been with my kids all their lives, but my kids had to follow rules, I won't tolerate rooms that stink they are so dirty, or the laziness with picking up after themselves and most definately not drug use in our home.. I am not mad, just try to get conversation started."
Ugh, it's gonna be ugly at my house tonight I am sure.