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UPDATED Update to BM taking DH's Last Name Again

lieutenant_dad's picture

UPDATE: MY MIL JUST WELCOMED BM BACK TO THE FAMILY NAME!

WHAT. THE. DUCK.

ORIGINAL: So, I had assumed that her changing her name back to DH's after a decade as her DH's name was a result of her getting divorced.

Apparently I was right. Apparently it happened a month ago. Apparently I knew because she said it in front of me at one of the drop offs (clearly I pay attention) according to DH.

So, BM is divorced. The BEST part, though? She didn't initiate it. Her DH - I'm sorry, XH#2 - did. I shouldn't smile at that because that's just mean. But...

Lol

Anywho, so they have been divorced for over a month now, but my understanding is that XH#2 still lives there and is still attending school functions for the boys (he was at a concert just recently). I'm sure DH LOVES that considering XH#2 rivals BM in horrible life choices, topping her in some areas, and DH never wanted him around the kids due to his drug addicted, thieving ways.

Oh well. I'm just going to sit back and watch what happens. Anyone want to take bets if she'll try to act like DH's wife in public? Odds are in your favor.

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JanRebecca's picture

So, BM is divorced. The BEST part, though? She didn't initiate it. Her DH - I'm sorry, XH#2 - did. I shouldn't smile at that because that's just mean. But...

 

Ha! I know how you feel!

ESMOD's picture

While it may not be 100% nice to smile at that situation.. it does help to reinforce that the driver for bad in your DH's last marriage was HER... NOT him.  So it kind of validates that your spouse is the better one.

lieutenant_dad's picture

I think it cracks me up because she left DH for XH#2 because she was so "in love" and "neglected" by DH. She has kicked XH#2 out multiple times. She has had at least two boyfriends while married to him. Each time, he just came crawling back. I don't know if he finally just had enough and decided to end it or what, but I know it is irriating her. She does NOT like having things done to her, and having someone as horrible as XH#2 calling it quits before her is just poetic. It's like he said to himself "I know I am effed up, but even I can't deal with this BS."

Don't get me wrong - I know my DH has problems, and I can see where he did things that would irritate her, possibly to the point of divorce if they weren't addressed. But nothing, NOTHING, my DH does even remotely compares.

thinkthrice's picture

I'm still waiting for karma to hit the Girhippo but I don't think it will ever happen with puppy lap dog StepDaddyBigBucks.  He just lies there and takes the abuse.

lieutenant_dad's picture

I'm not entirely sure this is karma. He filed for divorce, so he paid for it. She got to change her name back, which she wanted to do anyway. And now she has a roommate (if he is still living there) who helps pay rent (which he never did while married) and takes care of the boys while she works. AND she can date whoever else she wants.

This is more of a blow to her ego than a bite from karma. But I guess you have to take what you can get sometimes.

CLove's picture

Our TBM also had "Greener Grass Syndrom", and was disovered texting and meeting men online. She continually lied about it, however SO immediately thew her out. She was difficult to extract, until SO and I decided to begin a relationship, after a long friendship. She continued texting him and expecting his help in everything, even when she had a live-in boyfriend. This live-in boyfriend is VERY messed up and an alcohoic (like her), and there have been fights, abuse, and calls to police, etc. She thought she could do better, she thought she was better than my SO. His sister would always tell me this, and now I believe it. He thinks its because he is Asian, and she is white, and there is a "white supremacy thing" going on with her. But her children are mixed, and she married him. I am still trying to wrap my head around it all. He has such a sweet personality (hes pretty darn cute too), hes intelligent, simple but not simple-minded, and she just threw him and their entire marriage away. Blew up the entire family and children's lives. Over her hopes for better... 

She still asks for SO to do things for her but, Im sorry (not sorry), he is no longer yours to do the "Honey Do's"!!! I put my two feet down on that one. 

Its too bad that SS is following in BMs footsteps - he learned too well that being lazy has no repercussions.

notsobad's picture

BM here has gone through two serious bfs.

The break ups are hard on her ego because she is such a great catch and DH was the problem in their marriage.

Yet here we are still strong after 11 years, a traumatic life event and all the regular ups and downs in life. In fact I think we are a stronger couple these past few years.

Even if she met the perfect man, which for her means one with tons of money that he hands over to her without question, worships the ground she walks on and constantly tells her how beautiful, smart, amazing, strong and talented she is (the skid would have to give him lessons in this), I doubt she’d marry him. 

She likes having DHs name and sometimes being confused for his wife.

Oh, and MIL is insane! Welcoming BM back!?!? What the f is wrong with her? That would tick me off to no end!

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

lt_dad... I think I might be disowning MIL COMPLETELY if she did as much... Because that's s*** ridiculous for her to invite her back to the "family name." Which it is the fmaily name... But BM isn't part of it... So maybe she should, idk, go back to her actual family name??? Just a thought...

Cooooookies's picture

BM2 has the Grass Is Greener syndrome and it was always always DH's fault that their marriage failed.

Ten/eleven years later and DH and I are happily married and been in a relationship for 8 years now.

Meanwhile, BM2 tried to marry Mr Canada but lied on her immigration application which earned her a ten year ban from Canada.  She's been on again/off again with Mr. Cyprus, whose BM forbids him from marrying BM2 because she sees her for the money hungry biotch that she is.  They have cheated and broken up and got back together more times than I can count on both hands.

But sure, DH was the problem.  Ha!  She admitted in a drunken text to DH years ago that it really bothers her that all of her exes are remarried and she isn't.  Hmmmm now lets think...who's the problem then?

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