BM isn't working...AGAIN...
*insert string of expletives here*
BM is having pain, so she is currently off work and seeking short-term disability while they figure out what is wrong, if anything. I say "if anything" because BM has a history of being sick, hurt, in pain, etc. My understanding is that she has arthritis and fibro, but she is apparently fine enough to go out and do FUN things on the regular.
I'm irked, as is DH, but he doesn't want to hear it from me because I will fly off the handle. Fine, cool, I get it. But FFS! Working isn't optional when you're a CP! Or when you're ANY type of parent! Your kids need things, like a roof and food and clothes. That doesn't just magically fracking appear!
I think I would be less irked if I didn't have a whole family surrounding me who works despite constant pain and threat of death. My mom has an aortic aneurysm that will give if she lifts too much, but she works! My SF has steel rods in his back, yet he works a very physical job. DH, for crying out loud, gets 40% VA disability because he effed his knees to the point that BOTH have to be replaced AND they have to break his femur when they do it to twist the bone back around enough so his new knees won't wear him out! Yet he works full time!
Let's add to this that my sister is currently on Short Term Disability because she fell on ice, screwed up her knee, and was in an immobilizer brace for two weeks. She wasn't supposed to bend or put pressure on her leg. She STILL managed to make it to her classes, and when she got put into a regular knee brace, she BEGGED to go back to work.
I just can't deal with her BS around working and lack of money anymore. I have no sympathy. I watch most of my family battle through pain and illness. I watch DH bust his arse to make sure he can pay CS, insurance, College 529 accounts, and everything else. He works a job he HATES because it pays so well that he can do just about anything he needs to for the kids without hurting financially. Cry me a GD river BM about how your stomach hurts and now you can't work!
Seriously, if they don't figure out what is wrong (and I'm suspecting they won't find a cause, because my experience as a woman with stomach pain is that they really have no clue unless the cause is obvious), I doubt she'll go back to work after her disability is up. She has apparently been looking elsewhere, but it will just be a matter of time. I'm actually somewhat hoping it is something fixable so it can be fixed and she can go back to work, but having dealt with this BS from her for five years, I doubt it will be fixable enough for her to work.
Maybe I need to be more sympathetic, but I just can't muster it. I have already told DH that she isn't getting any additional cash from us. Our livelihood won't change to help her EXCEPT moving the kids in with us. I'll do that; I'll even drive the 30-40 minutes everyday to take them to school, and I'll pay someone in our family to pick them up. But I WILL NOT give her a dime extra. Nope.
*drinks coffee scathingly*