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Ah yes, the annual CS reminder...

lieutenant_dad's picture

CSB sent their annual fee letter today, and all I could muster was a roll of the eyes.

Yeah, I'm bitter that DH has to spend $50+ a year in fees, in addition to biweekly fees tacked on to his CS payment, for the pleasure of using a system that he has zero choice in using.

Am I going to let this eat at me? Of course not. But I need to let it out.

Anyone else need to let out some CS grievances?

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lieutenant_dad's picture

Nope. Not here. NCP pays the fee, and CS comes out after tax but is calculated on pre-tax earnings (if I remember correctly). DH even had to pay fees, in excess of several hundred dollars, a few years ago when he was working as a server and wasn't paying through the CSB system. CSB said he could pay BM directly and just file receipts at the end of the year, which saved him money because he had to pay a $10 fee/week to pay CS through the system and he made diddly at the time.

Come to find out, he wasn't supposed to do that, it was a mistake on CSB's website and whoever told him he could do that was mistaken. BM had to sign an affidavit stating he paid the full year (despite him having signed receipts by her) and then a judge had to decide if they would accept those payments.

Even after the judge did that, DH got hit with more fees because he was "in arrears" and it was the interest or something on those. Despite it being paid. To BM. As CS.

tog redux's picture

Jeez.  It's definitely taken out after tax, and BM gets the refund, of course.  But it's a small fee that she pays.

CLove's picture

The other day, Munchkin SD12 asked, while Toxic Troll was hanging with her newet "Dude" (read Dud), if it works out could daddy please stop having to pay child support?

Toxic Troll's answer (before Dude became Dud) was "oh I dont know". Its a testament to her lying talents that she didnt bust out laughing as her response. Its a good thing I wasnt around when Munchkin told Dh. I would have choked. Seriously, who would give up over 4,000 per year of free untaxed income? over 5 years...thats over 20,000 total. When Munchkin gets older, she might just realize the enormity of money that is, as aggregate. But we dont really talk about it with her or anything.

DH did mention to me that he had made mention that her mother going to see these other dudes was costing money. That money should be spent on supporting her child and that wasnt a good thing. Just as example, Toxic Troll recently brought a Dude down, round trip over 400 miles. So it was a good math lesson. If she gets 22 miles pr gallon, how many gallons to go 425 miles? LOL. Here gas is around 3.00-3.50 per gallon. So plus snacks and all that, its about $100 just to bring her new guy for a weekender. Thats her childs support dollars....bye bye now.

Yes, I grrr every month when DH writes his check and goes over to the apartment to hand deliver the thing. Because mommy dearest isnt telling the truth about her current money situation, and she must have gotten her payouts because she was car shopping the other day. She currently drives a convertible BMW Z series. Which she is always asking DH to fix since thats his specialty. Im like, charge her the full amount.

Did I mention that I hate child support? Mostly because Munchkin still expects us to pay for things that are extra. Im just wondering if she is going to want dad to still pay for her birthday party in may like he used to. Or back to school. Or summer clothing. And now that I am making more money, I am always thinking of ways that I can protect myself from over spending for child, and all that entails. In fact, after this month I no longer want to pay for half her cell phone bill. Thats a nice lunch, a month of gym membership.

shamds's picture

thats her bio parents responsibility.

i’ve been a stay at home mum and housewife since marrying hubby over 4 yrs ago.. hubby gives me personal spending money/savings every month and i often do online grocery shopping because it’s convenient since he works crazy hours. Any juices/snacks ss20 helps himself to but thats the most i do as long he doesn’t pig out and clear out the fridge and realise its there for everyone in our home to have i’m cool with it.

thats the extent of my generosity...

Alien's picture

Well, right now I have finally pushed the my-petty-self out and feel nothing about the child support being paid. Yeah, whatever they need to eat too. 

What bugs me is that BM ALWAYS says how my husband owes her because she used to do everything herself while we lived out of state. For gods sake your 13 year old has no interest other than youtube and failing every class in school and your 8 year old CANT READ. 

Oh and yeah, she admitted to committing child care fraud (charging dh childcare when they didn’t have it). No shame at all.

Great job mama. 

Gucci's picture

According to the state calculations from our attorney, our worst day in court is $556 in CS. DH and biowhore are trying to settle finances without a hearing. To make this go away (it’s been going on for 2 1/2 years of our 4 1/2 year relationship), he offered her $600. She countered today with $750. 

I hate her and I have been barely containing my rage today. We have the kids 50/50. Our state is terrible because someone has to pay. At least it’s not a 21 state. 

NoWireCoatHangarsEVER's picture

I do 50/50 and no one gets child support 

HowLongIsForever's picture

SO is 50/50, carries insurance, covers the first $800 of out of pocket before the split on medical expenses goes into effect and still pays over $500/mo.

Any after school or summer daycare expenses are above and beyond the CS order along with all extracurriculars (which BM loves to over schedule).

BM is gainfully employed, masters degree and above average income for the area.  Income shares state where the split is not quite 60/40, just under 60 to SO.  

 

Gucci's picture

That's so shitty. Our BM barely has a high school education and zero career training, so she's looking for us to cover her gaps instead of picking up a side hustle. 

HowLongIsForever's picture

It is quite amazing to me, it's a little mind blowing if you look at it strictly by the numbers.  It's not really child support, though.  Its income equalization.  

BM here has more of an education and a much more specialized career than either SO or myself but makes less than either one of us because she has a hard time adulting.  On paper she should be doing way better than she is though she still does quite well for herself.  She's terrible with money and entitled to boot.  So that's always fun.  

It's like she doesn't realize that what SO provides is only meant to be roughly 60%, that she's supposed to come to the table with the other 40%.  Maybe someday.  I won't hold my breath though.

CLove's picture

During the child support modification court date - Toxic Troll went for a raising of alimony from $300 to $500 (lost, door closed on that) Head of household (Won, there went $3,500 aproximately) and Child Support of $500 (got $347. Which is low end) So when all is over Dh will have paid the filthy whore (his words) about $40,0000.

When she was a teacher, working with autistic kids (read babysitter) she made 25,000. Now, we dont know what she is doing for work, she supposedly has a side hustle cleaning houses for cash, probably cashed out her calprs retirement fund and supposedly has a payout for her head injury.

Im just hoping that she doesnt take DH back to court now that she is not working at something regular. I am documenting days, and will be jounalising. DH and I keep our moneis separated. And I only pay half of our shared expenses I dont pay for munchkin.

thinkthrice's picture

chef has to pay the fees for the privilege of using their extortion bureau.  Nine months more for SD20 and here's to YSS16 moving out of the mothership all nice and rebellious before age 18. 

NoWireCoatHangarsEVER's picture

This doesn't affect me but still makes me gleefully happy!!!!! The hearing to terminate child support is March 1. SD doesn't turn 18 til May but he has lots of back credit so it's all ending for her!!! She used to get $1000 a month plus half of extras and now she is about to get NOTHING and I love it 

thinkthrice's picture

About a third of a million when all is said and done 

SM12's picture

DH got his $50 fee too.  Such crap!   Every time we get a letter from Child Support my heart drops a little.   I always expect it’s BM wanting MORE!!   Which is silly because if we went back to court it would most likely be lowered.   I guess it is just pTSD from years of her psychotic behavior.