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SD’s visit has been delightful

LearsWife44's picture

SD20's visit so far has been GREAT! She hasn't been around AT ALL. She leaves on Monday (YES!) and I've hardly had to see her!

She stays up until 4am, sleeps until 1pm, leaves at 3pm and is gone until 1 or 2 in the morning!! She's been out every night with her trashy friend, they shopping all over the state, meeting up with men and partying. NOT spending any time at home with dad.

My husband is so MAD though HAHAHA. He tries to blame it all on her friend as being a bad influence. No, she doesn't want to spend time with you. If she wanted to, she would. She has always done everything she wants to NEVER thinks of anyone else. He asked her to spend New Years with us. NO she had plans. Sorry dad. He's been pouting all week about it. NOT one night at home! 

BUT he wants her to come back in the summer to TRY AGAIN! UGH. Blaming this all on the friend!! Saying she WANTS to spend time with us but THIS FRIEND IS SELFISH taking up all her time with Daddy and keeping her away from him. WHAT IS WRONG WITH THESE MEN?? 

Last night he had a moment clarity: Said it was up to SD to make her own decisions at her age. I ABOUT FELL OVER. Said family should be IMPORTANT to her and she should spend time with us but he won't force her. Said we were just a hotel to her. YES! If she WANTED to spend time with us, she would! HER DECISION, don't blame the friend. 

Two weeks a year is not so bad right? I should be happy. I also MADE IT CLEAR I will never live with her again. She fights with her mom? TOO BAD. She can't live here. I would not be able to take it! 

Just 2 days until she gets back in her hoopty and pulls out of my driveway for another 6 months of PEACE!

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Livingoutloud's picture

She is partying and meeting with men and then comes back to your house during pandemics? It's very dangerous and shouldn't be tolerated. Why is she even traveling now? But even if she did travel, she shouldn't be allowed to go around and endanger you 

Rumplestiltskin's picture

She's 20. They want to be with people their own age. It sounds like maybe your DH needs her to hang around to meet his emotional needs. He should be worried about her becoming responsible and self-sufficient. That would be my main concern if i were her parent, that all the partying and shopping will lead to problems in that area, not that she's not hanging around making me feel better. 

Livingoutloud's picture

I agree but under normal circumstances, not during pandemics. She should either sit at home when visits or not visit right now at all 

tog redux's picture

Seriously, no way she'd be staying at my house right now. She's the prime demographic to infect everyone.

 

Rumplestiltskin's picture

True. The husband in this scenario doesn't seem to be at all concerned about COVID, though. Just that his daughter is giving others the attention he feels he should be getting. 

Livingoutloud's picture

It doesn't matter what he is concerned about.

If my DH brought SDs home and they were running around, I'd stay in my brothers house or hotel. I do understand having to go around due to wotk requirements but not for partying. I'd be not only afraid they infect me but that we could infect them as we both essential working in person. My DD and one of my SDs live out of state and absolutely not be traveling. One SD is in state and we meet her outside on neutral territory 

If DH wants to see his kids he has to figure it out. Not endanger  everyone 

hereiam's picture

I wouldn't have her in my house, at all, if she's running around all over the state and meeting up with God knows who.

 

LearsWife44's picture

I AGREE! I would gladly BAN her. My husband would WHINE that he NEVER gets to see his daughter. 

tog redux's picture

Well, too bad, he can go see her socially distanced somewhere.

We've seen my SS20 exactly ONCE since the pandemic started.

JRI's picture

When I read your title, SD's visit has been delightful, I thought a jaded stepper was being sarcastic.  But, NO, I agree, a perfect visit! Of course, the covid pandemic is a non-issue for SD, she is a acting like a normal 20yo.  Your DH needs to get over it.

CLove's picture

Next visit lay it out she cannot go out all over.

Also isnt she the one who paid her cc with student loan? How is that working for her? Shes shopping again?

Welll, sounds like she at least not bothering you.

Over here, SD21 is still going out every night. She came over for one hour and was so zonked out Dh couldnt stand it. Your DH cannot see the forest for the trees... maybe watch that movie "he just not that into you", and this will open a discussion up.

Peach's picture

Agree with the others.  She is potentially exposing all of your to COVID.  Blow that shite up!