Second visit seems to have gone better than the first, or maybe the programming was.
Kids had a good time, so I guess that is all that matters. Even though the lovely in laws sent home three pounds of candy (literally) per child. Yay. Thanks for that.
Last night, because the kids were being good, we allowed each of them to open a present. SD9 had come to me a month ago, very embarassed, asking for deodorant for after gym class because she was being made fun of for being "stinky." SD9 does pretty well with hygiene, but she falters here and there (I blame the single dad thing, because men are stupid ;)) but I took that as a good sign and decided this Christmas we were going to start transitioning her to "older" presents. No toys.
I bought her a gift set from Bath and Body Works and she is also getting a ruby necklace which is my special gift to her. SD6 got a baby doll that she can play with and she lights up and says 25 phrases (oh my god she says only 25 phrases, each of which I have heard ad nauseam). SD 9 seemed a little bummed by her gift (she hasn't opened the necklace yet) because it wasn't something she could play with. I had a long talk with her about how she is getting older and it's time for her to start acting like a lady (the kid-again single dad itus-burps and farts and jokes about it....ugh) and that toys are more appropriate for kids while she is becoming a lady.
Flash forward to this morning where she used her new bath gel, her new body buff and lotion. And then came the perfume. Oh my god, then came the perfume. She came strolling into my bathroom smelling like a $2 whore. I had to laugh after she left and SO just looked at me like, "Was that my daughter or the back seat of a well used Chevelle?"
Oh well, next lesson. Less is more sweetheart. Seriously, LESS IS WAY MORE. But at least she is trying right?
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My god, Ripley, we must share
My god, Ripley, we must share a brain. I wouldn't even let SO bring it in the house. The gingerbread houses will be going to grandmas for Xmas and all the nephews can have some as well. As for the rest of it...it will go back to their grandma's house.
Oh, I agree. I wanted to do
Oh, I agree. I wanted to do something a little more blended. So the toys will come from Santa. We are not banning them all together :). We are just trying to give her some stuff that she can more readily enjoy, and some things to show her that we recognize that she is growing up. Santa gets to allow her to be a kid
Oh that’s funny!! I am glad
Oh that’s funny!! I am glad the visit went better too!!
Now this is just my humble opinion and you can take it with a grain of salt…at 9 years old, I think she should still be getting “fun stuff”. Yes she needs to learn about deodorant and all of that stuff, but Christmas is a time to get “fun stuff”. Especially for a 9 year old.
I think you are a fairly new parent/Sp and I am just speaking from experience here and trying to help.
I agree Willow and last night
I agree Willow and last night after we had that talk a little part of me died inside because I did feel like it was really sad that SD6 got this doll she loved and all SD9 got was smelly stuff. We bought her games and my mom got each of them American Girl Dolls and Santa will be getting her some toys too. What I should have said was that was my logic when I did the initial shopping but after watching her last night I agree, I may be putting the cart before the horse and letting her have some toys and fun stuff is more important. I just felt like, because she was constantly telling me that next year she will be a "preteen" that she didn't want any of those things. Now I see, after last night, that was definitely a mistake on my part. Luckily Santa won't make the same one
So the toys will come from
So the toys will come from Santa. We are not banning them all together
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Oh good LOL. I thought you meant that she was never getting toys again! lol