So BM wrote a letter to the court asking for more time to get her shit together for the adoption hearing. The hearing was supposed be Feb. 22 but it got pushed back to May 2nd.
She said she was unable to get a lawyer and make it up to our state to be able to attend the hearing.
We started this process in October '11 so she had plenty of time. She just wanted to cause trouble.
The only good thing is that come May it will be 2 full years since she has had contact with SS4 and almost 3 years since she has actually seen him.
Our lawyer says he still thinks we will win. I will be glad when I get that new birth certificate in my hand that has my name on it instead of BMs. Things will be so much easier.
DH says that on the off chance we don't win we are going to go back to court again and get child support set up so we can hold that over BMs head. I'm not sure that is a good idea tho because thats considered contact I guess. Knowing BM she still wouldn't have anything to do with SS even if she won the case.
Hell she and DH have been divorced for 2 1/2 years now and in the visitation order for SS she was supposed to take a parenting class before she could actually physically see and take SS for her every other weekend...she still hasn't done that parenting class.
When she found out that I filed to try and adopt SS she called about 6 times total and only 2 of those calls mentioned SS...the other ones she said she wanted to talk to me or DH. Our lawyer said not to talk to her so we ignored her calls. She did have a guy call us at 2am and wake us all up...he claimed to be her husband and he said some other nasty things.
She also sent the cops to our door twice for a welfare check. Its was the same officer both times so he knew what was going on.
I found it funny tho that she seemed to suddenly be so concerned with SS yet she didn't call on Christmas or his birthday. She could of sent a card or a gift but she didn't.
BM also has a daughter thats a half sister to my SS. BM lost custody of the girl over a year ago. She was fighting to win her back too but her lawyer told her that she should just hold off on the case because there was no way she would get the girl back. Basically BM has no job, hasn't worked for about 8months and has job hopped her way around for the past 3 years. BM has been couch hopping as well and doesn't have a place of her own. She gets kicked out of wherever she is living every couple of weeks. She gets money by applying for student loans and grants. She has been in and out of about 6 or 7 schools now. Only one of them was a campus school...the rest have all been online programs.
I'm just ready for the adoption to be over with. I'm thankful that we have the resources to be able to fight for SS and try and get him away from his dope feind BM.