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Denial is NOT a river in Egypt! [Rant]

Kmommyof388's picture

Again extended skid weekend without my knowledge and of course the second my back is turned he's back to stealing (lets just call it what it is shall we) his baby brothers toys and hiding them just so they cant play with them....and then he starts doing dangerous jumping on to a glass coffee table (i spank and yell at my own toddlers for trying to do that) so anyway i tell dh *hey skid is jumping on and off the table* He keeps doing it over and over until i finally rip the xbox powercord out of the socket and i scream at dh *HES JUMPIMG ON OUR FURNITURE YOU HANDLE THIS AND HANDLE IT NOW!* and what does he do (tell kmommy youre sorry) NO OTHER discipline ...im ready to just pack it in

EFF OFF DISNEY DAD WITH YOUR IDIOTIC DOUBLE STANDARDS!

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thinkthrice's picture

grease the table so he breaks his fool neck?  I'm not kid-centric...MY kids were expected to behave like civilized humans.

Maxwell09's picture

You should have recorded it and saved it for later. Then you should have jumped up and loaded up your kids in the car and took off to target or somewhere. He’s not going to take care of the kid if he knows you’re there in the background. If the boy would have gotten hurt then your DH would have no one there to blame but skid and himself which is the point of y’all leaving. You should do this every single time the kid is acting crazy. Let him deal with it. And when he calls asking you where you went then you say “I took the kids [wherever]. SS was being really wild and I don’t want the younger ones copying him and getting hurt so we left.” Don’t say it with anger just say it matter-of-factly and like it’s no big deal because it’s normal. Keep doing this. Rinse and repeat. He will get tired of you dissapearing on him if he cares at all and make some changes. 

ndc's picture

I don't know how you do it.  I would have sold or hidden your H's video gaming stuff and told him to get a full time job like a responsible adult a long time ago.  And when the skid started acting like a hyperactive fool, I'd have packed up my kids and left him with his father.  With respect to the skid, I would limit myself to protecting my children and attempting to protect my belongings, and I'd do nothing else.  Let his father handle him.

Do you have any kind of exit plan?  I fear that if your situation doesn't change you will be a stark raving lunatic before too long.

Kmommyof388's picture

Notreally a plan perse i opened a small savings account that dh doesn't know about...i feel bad for lying but at the same time i feel if iam the one doing everything until the kids are asleep then i go off to my part time night job i should be entitled to some of the money i work for...*not much at all but i think if i just keep putting 10 dollars here and there its a small enough amount that he wont notice is gone*

justmakingthebest's picture

I had to have an escape plan when I left my ex. It is pretty amazing what you can save in 2 months. Everytime you can swipe you card and the option for debit is there, add $5. Even if it is $5 extra in your gas tank, that is negligable. At the grocery store, really use the apps and coupons- do $25 there. He wouldn't even notice that if you shop smart. Heck, you might find you can do more than that if you really shop the ads. 

I am one for always trying to make a marriage work. I root for everyone to be able to pull through the rough times. I am sorry that it seems that the rough times for you are only going to get worse. That isn't fair you or your kids.

Cooooookies's picture

Two months ago you moved to your mom's because of the same b.s.  Nothing has changed (and won't).  Why do you put up with it?  What are you getting out of this relationship?  I know this is a venting site but really.  There is a man out there who would actually treat you like the good woman you are.  There really is.