The new skids for BM
BM now has a new man in her life who has 3 children as well (BM can’t handle her 3 kids so I don’t know how she is going to handle 6, lol, but not my problem). Anyway I picked up SS13 yesterday and asked him how his weekend was with his mother. He said that he met BM partners kids. After our discussion about his kids I asked SS13 if they all came over to BM house and he said no we went to a restaurant but his other 2 brothers didn’t go to meet them not because they didn’t want to but because BM didn’t want to take them.
This was the first time any of BM kids met his kids. BM had the 2 younger ones babysat and only took SS13 with her while her boyfriend took all 3 of his kids who are also about the same age as my skids.
BF is very upset about this as he feels that this other mans kids are going to be favoured over BF kids and this is only the beginning.
I thought it was totally wrong of BM especially since it was the first meeting. I don’t know if BF has a right to even say anything to BM about it but he did anyway. Her excuse for not taking the other two kids was that the youngest one doesn’t behave at restaurants (we never have a problem with him), so BF said then why didn’t they come to your place for dinner or get some take out or something, BM didn’t reply and just started shooting her mouth off about me (what’s new) cause she didn’t know what else to say.
Is anyone else in this position where the BM skids are treated better then her own and how your BF/DH handled it?
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Oh, boy, this could be Pandoras box
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
She's planning on marrying him, right? Do you know if BMs BF has custody of his kids?
Just kindof be on the lookout. This happened to a gal I knew years ago-she was living w/her bf & one of his kids. Then his ex married a man w/kids, also. Well, the kids did not get along. Not at all. So the bf's kids ALL wanted to move into bf's house. It was the end of the relationship, as the gf ended up with 5 children to raise who were not even hers. Not saying that would happen, just a little heads up that it could.
Hope it all works out for the best, whatever that may be.
BM has spoken about marriage
BM has spoken about marriage to the skids but I think it's too early for them to even be thinking about it.
I don't think he has custody of his kids cause BM wanted to change the parenting plan for next year, well BF and I worked out that she changed it to suit his schedule so they have the kids at the same time so they can have romantic weekends together :sick:, not that she gave a ruts ass when BF and I got together and she would drop the skids off every weekend.
Karma, I can't waiting for it to hit right where it hurts.
All I know is that if his kids get favoured over BF's kids all hell is going to break loose and guess who is going to be stuck in the middle coping everyones shit, that's right me.
The joys of a blended family :?:.
It's way too soon to worry...plus
you have absolutely NO control about what happens in her relationships over there.
If the shoe were on the other foot, would you want HER meddling into such matters about what goes on in YOUR life when the kids are with YOU? I don't think so!
Sorry to say, some things in life you just have to let go.
"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis
I agree with 5teensat home.
I agree with 5teensat home. It is way to soon for anybody to start stressing about this. Also, it is none of your business what happens on BM's weekends unless the children are getting abused just as she has no say on what you do with the kids on your weekends.
agreed
way beyond your realm of control..
do what you can to support the kids that is about all you can do.
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."
I Agree With You All
I agree. I personally couldn't give a s#@t what happens at BM house as long as it doesn't affect BF, me or the skids, but unfortunatly it seems to be affecting BF. I've told him to relax and we will just deal with things as they come up if and only it concerns us or the skids.
Thanks Ladies.