THE LIGHT FROM THE END OF THE TUNNEL
I am 75 yo SM who has been reading the blogs & forums. I want to tell all the traumatized SPs out there that it CAN sometimes work out & you CAN sometimes get thru all the issues & have happy years with your dear spouse.
When DH & I got together in 1972, we had 5 kids: SD11, SS9, BS8, BD6 & SS5. Yes, 5 kids from 5-11. I was 27 yo & had no clue. We have been thru everything: hostile BM, deadbeat xh, alienated SKs, lying, theft, runaways, alcoholism, drugs, jail, hellish vacations, boundary stomping, adult move-ins, drama, triangulation - you name it. When i die, my tombstone should read, "I have seen it all".
I am now 75, ST is 82 & has prostate cancer. We love our life. We go to the casino, we eat, we laugh, we lounge around the house. We have a good time. He is still the same funny, sweet, generous man. The kids are all grown up: SD58, SS56, BS55, BD53, SS52. They are good people & excellent parents & we have 9 grandkids.
Stepparents, i feel your pain every time I read the blogs & forums. I still have PTSD. But i want to say: sometimes it can work out. Good luck!