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I would go back, look my 14 year old self dead in the eye and say "if you get in a relationship before you're 30 ill come back and kick your ass."

I think I would go back to when FDH and I put our finances together and slap myself!!!! Not the smartest choice I have ever made lol

I wouldn't have taken DH back after we both grew up and matured. I would have stayed single. & moved to start my career alone. No drama. Just me.

I love DH but if I knew then what I know now, I would have left before I ever loved him & not felt bad about it. I would have waited on a man who was, like myself, smart enough not to have kids otu of wedlock. & we would have a normal nuclear family.

I will NEVER get to experience a family without skid and bm drama. At least those of you on your second marriage maybe got to experience it once. I regret that. All the love in the world for DH & SD can't change that.

I would not have married my first husband, by him avoiding his own BM {and she is a sweetheart} I should have realized that he would be the same with me eventually. We divorced after 9 years of marriage and he had me live alone for the last 3 of those years. He took everything including the bed and we were suppose to be buying a house together but hadn't sold the old one yet. I worked, came home to my dog, and slept on my clothes bc the thin air mattress was too cold even with the sleeping bag as my sheets.

i would go back to when I got pregnant for bd18 and tell myself what a monumental fucking idiot her deadbeat would turn out to be, and to leave, because the only reason I ever met him has been fulfilled.

as for steplife, I would go back to the beginning and tell myself not to go out of my way to be so nice to sd and include her in everything, because she doesn't and won't appreciate it anyway. not to say I would be mean and exclude her, I would just stay my distance and leave fdh to it.

I would have gone back to high school graduation, packed my bags and left town immediately.

There are two places in my life I would change. One is that when I was in college, I studied in Germany briefly. I had a boyfriend over there, and if I could do things over, I stay over there and not come back home. My parents were surprised I came back, so I would even have had support. Nice!

A second place I would change would be after I first got married. I wish I had stood up for myself more when DH was being a complete a**hole to me. The only scary part would be that if DH left me, then I would never have had my 2 boys, and they are worth everything to me. So while I wish I had more backbone back in the day, I still would want my current outcome. Hm.

Simple, I would have told myself to NEVER date a man with a child.