I want to just hit them in the face
Sorry, I can't even take it anymore. I feel like i'm going crazy. I never thought I would be in this situation. Hi!! I'm new here, I have no idea what i'm doing just that I need to vent. I've been married for a yr now. I have 2 boys 20 and 14. Absolutely great kids, my oldest goes to Syracuse University, my youngest just started HS. My husband has 4 daughters all in there mid 20's. They all live with there boyfriends, one has kids of her own, and the youngest is pregnant. Here is my story :/
My husband is a tattoo artist, we are like night and day. One of his daughters used to work for him, I will call her daughter #2 she was his piercer. One day she took a pic of her mother and sisters and put it up in the shop. Then she put it up on FB and wrote, "Found this in a closet, don't know who put it there, it is now back where it belongs, blood is thicker than water." Obviously, it was meant towards me. However, I don't go into the shop, I didn't even know there was a closet. I thought it was extremely disrespectful of her. I showed it to her father, who went to the shop, tore the picture off the wall and fired her. It was a month before the wedding. A couple of weeks later I got an RSVP, I open it to see who it was from. It had no name.. But it in the back of the card it was addressed to my husband and said "WE WILL NOT BE GOING TO YOUR WEDDING YOUR SHORTY HAS ISSUES" He was really upset, and for the first time we argued. I knew it wasn't his fault but I just couldn't understand what was happening. A couple of days after that we were out to dinner and daughter#3 started texting me. She was out of control, she was rude, she called me every single name in the book. I showed it to him and asked him to call her and tell her to stop. He didn't, instead he just texted her "STOP" which she laughed at and texted me "what are you going to tell my Dad?" He said that he would handle it in person.
My husband told them that they were no longer invited and he wanted no drama. Since then I have gotten hate mail. I would say every so often. They send me pics of midgets (cause they call me a midget bodybuilder) they call me a whore, they call me a slut, they tell me that he doesn't love me, it goes on and on. I hate these girls with a passion, and I'm even thinking of leaving him.
This week daughter #4 the pregnant one, went to the shop and asked him for money, to buy her baby shower cake. He gave it to her. I am beyond upset!! It's not even the money, I feel betrayed. After all that she has said about both me and him (oh let me add that daughter #4 has put on fb how much she hates me and that she hope her father beats me" he just hands her money. I feel like he's sending the message that whatever they have said and done doesn't matter. He has cried and told me that I am the love of his life, that he didn't do it to hurt me, that he actually thought it was funny, that after all she had said she still needed him. I don't see the humor in that. This will forever be a problem, cause they are his kids.
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Oh someone please help with
Oh someone please help with all these acronyms lol..
Your husband needs to close
Your husband needs to close his wallet and tell his brats to cut the shit. And, you need to start saving it and file charges against them for harrassment.
But I don't have proof, they
But I don't have proof, they send it without a return address.
That's what my best friend
That's what my best friend says..
BM - bio mom SD -
BM - bio mom
SD - stepdaughter + an age SD23, Stepdaughter 23 years old
DS and DD dear son and dear daughter + an age
DW - dear wife
DH - dear husband
And your SD's are bitches and your husband is wrong to let them treat you this way. They sound like a bunch of psychos...
Edited to add (ETA) you should block their numbers on your phone and e-mail, and block them on FB and anyone who is friends with them too.
lol thanks for the acronyms,
lol thanks for the acronyms, I'm no longer on FB because of them & there numbers are all blocked from my phone. I really don't know what to do, my best friend made me burn the notice I got yesterday which was a pic of a girl giving me the finger. Needless to say I've been sleeping in my sons room.
Holy Fuck! This is out of
Holy Fuck! This is out of control. They kind of sound scary.
Someone already said it...is this dude worth all this psychotic bullshit?
I thoyght it was me lol I'm
I thoyght it was me lol I'm so glad to have found this blog!! Psycho, manipulative lying bitches
You can't hit them. It's not
You can't hit them. It's not worth the trouble it could get you in with the law. Don't give them that satisfaction.
When threats or proof of harassment comes your way, you can look into a restraining order or press charges. The cake money? I'm betting Dad threw the money at her in the shop to get her the hell out of there. Brat likely would have made a rip roaring scene in front of his clients. Imagine her trashing around the shop, talking trash about his wife (cause you know anything and everything is always the stepmom's fault
). Yeah, toss the the $50 and shoo her right out the door.
Just make sure (as you did) that this has really upset you. You find it offensive and betrayed that he gave the witch cash. That this best not be a routine thing because yes, it does show the SD that Dad is 'ok' with her behavior.
Block those skids (stepkids) from FB. You really don't need to see/read all the crap they post. Change your number on your phone if needed so that that can not call/text you. I assume they don't visit in your home....if they do, put a stop to it. These are grown adult skids that have no business in your home if they can't behave.
As to some of their bullsh*t, really DH can't control. He can't make them 'like' you, he can't make them act their age. What he can do is let them know he will not tolerate this childish cruel disrespect behavior. When he does that though, he must be prepared to cut them off and out if it continues. That's the hard part.
He has put distance between
He has put distance between them which is even more shocking that she would have the balls to go ask for money!!! She couldn't even call him for fathers day yet she does that. She has no Shame!! There blocked from my phone & I no longer have fb because of them.. & they are not welcomed in my home
You need to decide if your
You need to decide if your husband is worth the aggravation it is going to cause to get this stopped. If he is, then get on with stopping it, take legal action if you have to.
If he isn't, leave him and it will probably stop anyway.
I would make the decision if
I would make the decision if its worth it or not to stay too...
I'm sure there is more to the story that we don't know, but I would ask myself, can I live with this forever, to not be welcome or treated badly at future gatherings such as all 4 girls weddings, birth of children, their holiday celebrations and kids birthday parties for the rest of your life...is it worth it, now that their adults, he can't spank them...giving them money sure isn't appropriate.
My SM is a horrible nasty critical commenting, insulting, judgemental witch! BUT I have NEVER and WILL NEVER sass back to her or treat her badly! She is still my step mom, my dad's wife! and my elder! I would never say anything rude to her no matter how crazy she got!
Wish your SD's were the same...
I wish they were like U as
I wish they were like U as well. That's the whole story. There isn't more. I have asked him why they don't like me & he can't answer me. He had a relationship before me & not in so many words told ne that they had the same type of relationship with her.
WHY are they so mean to you?
WHY are they so mean to you? What started it?
This is really aggressive behavior they are giving you.
That's my question to my
That's my question to my husband. I even asked if they thought he was getting back with there mother. (They had been separated 19 yrs) when we met. So I don't know what the problem is. When we moved in together daughter #2 said well he didn't tell me he was going to move in with U!! I wanted to say, he's an adult he doesn't need your permission. But I kept my mouth shut.
OP (original poster) We call
OP (original poster) We call this mini wife syndrome.
http://www.amazon.com/Mini-Wife-Syndrome-A-Stepmothers-Guide-ebook/dp/B0...
One of the smoms here wrote this and it explains a lot. Do some research on mini wives. Daughters who think their fathers are married to them (not incest) it's a common phenomenon with blended families.
My sd18 is a miniwife. She calls the shots...tells us all what we are doing when she comes to visit and my husband minds her. That's an example
But so far on this site your SD's are the worst I've heard of...they scare me.
This is literally killing me
This is literally killing me & destroying my marriage. He's an amazing man & I love him. But how much more can I take?? I've been sleeping in the other room & he's offended. He doesn't understand why I feel
The way that I do because he gave her the money.
You're going to have to tell
You're going to have to tell your husband to make a choice. Deal with his daughters once and for all or you are outta there.
How do I ignore this & move
How do I ignore this & move on with my life?? Sitting here crying!! I hate it I hate them!!