For some reason, all the kids at SS12's school get free lunch and breakfast (this is a very nice part of town, so it's hard to believe a big percentage of kids there are eligible -- which is the threshold for everyone to get it free -- but, whatever). SS eats a school lunch every day. While the lunch is free, there is other stuff you can purchase through your school dining account -- cookies, chips, special drinks, frozen yogurt, etc. DH keeps the account funded.
Lately, though, there's been a problem. SS is regularly buying multiple junk food items (DH can see what he's buying). At first he thought maybe he was being bullied and forced to buy stuff, but there's no sign of that at all. SS said he and his friends regularly buy things and then trade in afternoon classes, where they're allowed to snack.
DH has talked to him about it. He talked to him about buying and eating so much junk -- making better choices. Did no good. DH talked to BM and she said she'd talk to him, too. DH told SS he was only allowed a certain dollar amount each week, so he needed to think about what he really wanted.
This week he ran through $25. So, DH told SS he went over his limit and he now owes him $$. SS just shrugged and said "Mom said I can get what I want and she'll pay you back."
Defeats the purpose on two fronts:
1) He's not learning about healthy eating. Not a shock. BM and her family are overweight. And she doesn't cook, so they live on boxed Mac and cheese and takeout.
2) Part of DH's hope was to teach SS about money management, thinking things through.
So much for that.